#lune texts

[luneloving]

something I've recently learned: if outright positive thoughts are too difficult for you, you can try something called "bridge thoughts" which are essentially thoughts that aren't really inherently negative or positive. things like "maybe im not as embarrassing as i think I am", "maybe im not as ugly as i think" or "maybe someone could possibly find me likeable". if you try to go from "everything is terrible and i want to die" to "i love life and i want to live!" cold turkey a lot of times its just ineffective. you need to take those small steps towards changing your mindset first, and then eventually you can say "i love life and i want to live!" and actually mean it.

[luneloving]

here's to everyone hitting a low point after doing really well. you're amazing and so strong and your hard work is not erased. you will find happiness again

[luneloving]

cultivate love in your heart and let it spill into everything you do

[luneloving]

loving your body ≠ thinking your body is beautiful. you do not need to find your body attractive in order to love and respect it. true self love is no longer basing your self worth off of how well you fit into the beauty standards.

[luneloving]

something that helps me with social anxiety:

release the obsession with always saying "the perfect thing". speak from your heart and tell yourself that just responding is good enough. you do not have to sound nice or smart all the time. it is okay to just be honest and say what you think. you are not here to please anyone, and no one is going to judge you because your reply to their text wasn't an A grade essay. a less than perfect reply is better than no reply.

[luneloving]

how you program your mind when you're at a low point is so impactful. resorting back to toxic patterns when you're low is only strengthening those neural pathways and programming your mind to make those unhealthy choices or think those unhealthy thoughts every time you're not feeling well. alternatively, trying your hardest to cope in a healthier way every time you're feeling bad will strengthen those positive neural pathways, and as time goes on, it will become easier to make healthy choices and say no to toxic patterns. this of course isn't to say that you should feel guilty if you relapse, it is not by any means easy to reprogram your brain and sometimes we relapse and that's okay, so long as we're trying our best to treat ourselves better.

[luneloving]

you cannot immediately go from self hatred to self love. if you begin from a place of self hatred and try to love yourself, you will eventually crash. you need to start from where it feels right. really look at yourself, study how exactly you feel about yourself, and work on the root of your self loathing. you will eventually get to a place of self love, but first comes self acceptance.

[luneloving]

avoiding being honest about your feelings in order to not worry people roots from feeling like your experiences are not valid, important, or worth anyone's time. please know that the things that you are afraid to share are worth worrying about, and there's only so long that you can keep it all inside. take your problems seriously. your suffering matters and you deserve to be heard.