#m.mutuals

[everythingseasoning]

the lion is officially making out with @swearimnevergivingup everyone leave us alone (or come watch the show)

[meitochondria]

yeah, dame un beso betch @lemonmilke

[meitochondria]

“it’s just a scratch.” “and i still want to know who did this to you. :)”

FIRST POST FIRST POST !! (click for better quality)

i drew my spidersona oc with @lemonlennon ‘s lovely oc uncle mat !! i wanted them to be chaotic together at first but now ,, angst ,, BUT I STILL LOVE THEM SO !

if i colour this i will for sure post it :,)

[everythingseasoning]

I’m starting to realize the reason why I don’t like a lot of romance in media might be because I’m Demiromantic / demisexual and most romantic relationships, and media are written by someone without the demisexual/Demi romantic perspective (simply because demi / aroace people make up such a small subsection of the population) but I would always be weirded out how people would fall for somebody’s looks and keep chasing after them even when they don’t have any real relationship or sometimes a negative relationship because of this weird “pull”??? And I was like this makes no sense. You don’t know this person you just think they’re hot. Why are people fantasizing over somebody just because they’re hot? And I’m beginning to realize it might be because I’m just wired weird. And that is how some people genuinely experience attraction? (I don’t know how their brains work it’s weird)  

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hi Enya! :)

i can understand your confusion and the distance you feel from the way non-ace people experience attraction (and how that’s so saturated in media). Does it feel isolating? I can imagine that it does, what with the majority of the world operating in a different way. Obviously I’m sure you know you’re not weird or wrong in any way for being the way you are :> but I wanna reinforce that you’re valid and your experiences are valid. It’s much more rare to meet another ace/demi person, I agree, but we’re definitely out there!

I personally am only demisexual towards girls (towards guys I unfortunately do experience attraction/allure based on looks. In other words, I feel that “pull,” as you call it - very accurate word btw! It’s a curse, it has never worked out for me because those guys KNOW they’re fine shyt and their experiences can make them cocky.) But the SECOND I see that his personality is shit, or even if I don’t feel emotionally safe with him and he’s not a bad guy, the idea of that guy close to me grosses me out. And sex with them wouldn’t be fun at all. The “pull” goes away. And with girls, I don’t feel sexual attraction at all unless I’m romantically in love with them (theeeen if I see them I just wanna hold their hand, kiss them, write them poems, and they’re absolutely stunning to me and everything they do is coloured/bathed in the light of wonder and amazement.)