#macrobrelationships

[qwedfas]

Can you tell us one of your relationship stories?

Hey,

Unfortunately during this exam period we’re all a little bit preoccupied and won’t be able to give you an answer to this question! Perhaps ask again in a little while and maybe FAM2019 will have a crack at giving you a story!

Love,FAM xx

[qwedfas]

Hey guys, so I sort of really like a guy but the problem is he is 2 years older than me. (I’m 15 and he is yet to turn 17) . We’re really good family friends and I think friends in real life but.... I’ve started really liking him. LIKE REALLY LIKE LIKE. and I don’t know what to do because I don’t know where he stands. And I don’t know if the age is gal is going to ruin everything.

Hey there,

We understand how conflicting and hard this must be for you. The best thing to do would probably be to talk to him about it. Although you may feel awkward not knowing where he stands with you and worried about ruining a friendship, the only way for you to know for sure is for him to tell you himself and the only way that can happen is if you bring it up with him. Don’t be afraid to be open and put all the cards on the table. You might like to start by saying something along the lines of ‘hey i’ve been thinking about something that I wanted to talk to you about’.

Remember that these things only work if you talk and are honest both with yourself and to him. This of course goes the other way as well so when you bring it up be sure to remind him to be honest to you because you deserve at least that much.

If you’re truly unsure, maybe wait it out a bit and see how you feel because these feelings could be temporary and we’re sure you don’t want to accidentally ruin the start of a friendship due to feelings of uncertainty.

Good luck,

FAM xx

[qwedfas]

i just wanted to say that i had the most amazing day after i had the most amazing kiss. (my first one!!) and since no one cared bc, who does!? heh. imma blurt it out. BUT IT WAS AMAZZING!! it was right after he asked me out. i was going to leave since it was my stop on the train and then he held my hand back and told me to wait and i was like y? and he askedme to be his gf. i said yes and then he kissed me!! AHHH

Hey!

This is very cute and we wish you all the best in your relationship.

Love,

FAM xx

[qwedfas]

ok so i told my crush that i like him the other day and he said he doesnnt like me back (which is fair enough im not that interesting) but im conflicted on whtether i should keep trying to impress him or just back down knowing i wont be able to get him. we're both decent friends and im not sure what to do :/ what would you do? <3 🎀

Hey there!

Aw we’re sorry to hear that! Hm well in that situation maybe it’s best to give both of yourselves some time. Now that he’s heard you out, he may keep that in mind and reconsider, you never know. As you’re both still decent friends, I’d say keep the friendship going. Over time, we all change, and I bet you are interesting in your own way so don’t talk yourself down. You may change and evolve in your own unique way and he may like that, so don’t worry. But even if he doesn’t, just stay true to yourself – if he isn’t the one for you then that’s okay too! As well as that, if you really want to, maybe start making a few new friends, as once again you never know, there may be someone else out there that fits you better ;)

Hope this helps!

LOVE,FAM xx

[qwedfas]

I’m in year 11 and I really like this guy who I think likes me back, but the problem is he graduated last year. I’m so confused on what to do, please help!

Hey there,

This is a bit of a hard question for us to answer, without more information. Is there a reason why the fact he graduated last year a problem? It can be quite daunting to like someone who is a couple years older and overall has more life experience. But as long as you two don’t have a gap in maturity and enjoy each others’ company, there shouldn’t be too much of a problem!

FAM xx

[qwedfas]

I really want a boyfriend but I feel like no boy is interested in me 😞

Hey there!

OMG! I so relate. It’s worse when all your friends get boyfriends too and you end up fifth wheeling half the time. But when you take a step back and look at life (i know it sounds philosophical, but hear me out:) ), I kind of realise how large life is. I mean i’m only eighteen and one month meaning I have just entered adulthood (as defined by the majority of western society). The life expectancy of a female at current is 72 and 8 month (gee now i’m quoting data, but stick by me:) ) So each time i think of life I think how many years I still have left (not to say I will die on my 72nd birthday) and with 365 day in an year how many more people i could meet in that time. So who cares if no boy at the moment is interested in you. You will meet the guy meant for you and experience something that you will treasure for life. And just to quote something I heard - ‘ Your own unique trait will attract the one fated to you.’  So what I’m trying to say is you are still young, and life is very unpredictable. Believe in yourself. Wishing you all the best:)

PS. It is possible to have a really fulfilling life without a man/whoever you feel attracted to. You can seek and find joy and emotional fulfilment in a range of situations and other activities in your life. A boy will not be the be all end all of your life (and your happiness).

Love,FAM xx

[qwedfas]

i like a boy.. or i love him. how do i know the difference im only 16 OMG i cant stop thinking about him

Hey,

This is really hard question for us to answer, because love and how it feels is sooo subjective. Also keep in mind that these things are subject to fluctuating – one day you might feel madly in love, and one day you might feel different. Whether it’s ‘love’ or ‘like’, sometimes it’s best to just let it flow and happen and accept however you might be feeling without putting a label on it.

As you said, 16 is still young and you’ve got your whole life ahead of you so enjoy what you have but try not to feel pressured or locked down. So long as you’re safe and your relationships with others aren’t detrimental to your health, then just try and take things as they are and enjoy it.

Love,FAM xx

[qwedfas]

whenever i ask this friend for help she gets pissed off at me and tells me to ask someone else, but when i ask someone else she's mad i didn't come to her first and butts in. also, when i say i dont understand something she goes "what the f it's so easy" and she judges me so hard and i g e t it im dumb okay but just because she's smart af doesn't mean she can be so rude about it like im t r y i n g. sorry for the rant but what do i say to her or do like im so done.

Hey!

I agree with you that it’s very unfair on you for her to treat you like that. Perhaps she’s not aware that her words and tone are offending you. If she does bring it up again, don’t be afraid to stand up for yourself and let her know how she is contradicting herself. You don’t have to get angry, try and stay calm and explain the situation to her.

She also definitely shouldn’t be treating you like that just because you don’t understand something that she does. Again, explain to her how you are feeling and hopefully she’ll realise the weight of her words. However, if she continues to belittle you, don’t be afraid to distance yourself from her because friends are supposed to support you, not bring you down.

Love,

FAM xx