For NaNoWriMo, I'm writing a story. I'm trying to write a character that's agender and another character that's genderfluid. I'm not really quite sure how to write that, being cisgender, so I'd appreciate it if you could help. Can you describe what being agender or genderfluid is like? Thank you for your help.
I can’t completely speak for agender but for genderfluid it means, for me, waking up and either registering your gender first thing or you decide you don’t know what yothe gender is today. It means some days my body is perfect and some days I know exactly what I want to change and how I could do that, even though I don’t have the means to do that.
There are days when I am so giddy because I’m binding and I’ve got a flat chest and it’s all I ever wanted and there are some days where I bind and it’s a little bit of a mistake because either my back is REALLY FUCKING SORE or it was a Boob day or a Girl day
It means constantly being misgendered and wanting to go mute because then people will misgender you. It means little kids calling me a Boy and they’re parents, embarrassed, “correcting” their children, even though you’re going to smile the entire day because someone identified you correctly.
There are days when being called “boy” is just as painful/hard to swallow as being called girl. It means constantly shouting “I”m not [gender]!” in your head.
There are some days I Love my gender. There are some days I hate my gender. There are some days, even, where I feel indifferent to my gender.
It’s all a balancing act.
I would add, kind of different tone, that for me my coming out process, or my identity, very closely matches with that of a butch lesbian, and I don’t know how I feel about that yet.
I hope this helps. Good luck with this!~Riv