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Thanks so much @becomingwhatideserve, @mal-le-able, and @findingmypeace. It’s been really helpful to me to hear that others, both here and IRL, also feel that this feedback was really shitty. Re: the style thing: it’s potentially valid in the context of code, because it’s possible to write code that’s technically functional but is really poorly organized, has the potential to hide bugs, and can’t be understood by anyone. In this sense it’s possible for one person’s style to be “worse” than another person’s, so it’s important to me that the style of my code is not worse than someone else of my tenure… but he still has to tell me what the style criticisms actually are if he’s going to imply that my style has obvious flaws??
I’m out of office until Friday and he’s out of office until the following Friday, which gives me lots of time to brood on what he could possibly have meant… but on second thought, maybe it’s a good thing. I’ve been wishing I could talk to my officemate’s TL about this, because he’s a) higher up in the TL hierarchy, b) ridiculously nice, and c) evidently can deal with my officemate who is even worse at coping with negative feedback than I am, so maybe the fact that my TL is out of office will give me an excuse to do so. If he does consider it to be feedback that I can extract anything useful from, I want to know what, and if he doesn’t, maybe he’ll communicate it to my TL and my TL will take it more seriously than he would from me. My TL has lectured me about my “core skills”, such as task management and response time, to no end, but giving reasonable and useful feedback is core skill of being a TL which he clearly lacks 😒.