#maladaptive dayreaming

[the-disaster-with-madd]

Hiya! I noticed that your bio said that you were open to questions about MaDD and wanted to ask: for someone who's recently discovered that they're a MaDD, what are some terms do you think would be good to know? I've look around a lot of blogs but I don't know what things like Paras or Neuronarrators (?) mean- I hope you have a good day <3 !! :D

Hi, thanks for the ask! I hope you have a good day too :D

I am not entirely sure what a neuronarrator is, but I think it is similar to an immersive daydreamer (like madd but without the negative effects to your life)

Paras is the general term for characters within your daydream universes. They can be entirely made up, a fictional character from a book/tv show/movie etc., or a real life person

A parame/paraself is the version of you that is in your daydream universe (if you put yourself in it), and it is usually the idealized version of yourself; sometimes it can be an entirely different version of yourself (like if you made your parame a different species/an alien). 

I think on reddit a while ago they made a term for the para that your parame is dating/has a crush on (I think it was paramour?), but I don’t think it really became a thing. Also the MaDD subreddit is r/MaladaptiveDreaming if you’re curious

Paracosm is the term for your daydream universe. Some people only have one paracosm while others have multiple, and some people only use one at time but switch between them every few weeks/months/years, but it differs from person to person. Also, paracosms can be entirely self-created, existing fictional ones, or just based off of real life

Daydream block is when you have trouble/cannot daydream when you want to, and it is usually distressing

Daydream crash is when you realize that your daydreams are not reality and get upset and/or have an existential crisis because reality will never compare to your daydreams

Also, here’s a list of MaDD tags and how to use them

If anyone has a better definition for any of these or if I missed an important term please feel free to add it to the post! And if you have any more questions I’d be more than happy to answer!

[macandcheese-kun]

not to be sad on main but i wish i lived inside of minecraft where i had no worries and could go on adventures with my friends and build my own reality or alternatively my castle in the sky that exists within my dreams and its the big castle far above the world and it's filled with the things that make me happy like goats and kittens and stickers and mini dolls and it had infinite rooms and in every room there was a different little universe and i could hang out with my favorite characters and all my best friends and i'd sleep on clouds with the fluffiest pillows ever and eat off of cheese plates and eat spaghetti everyday but never gain weight and dance in beautiful ballrooms made out of crystals and stars and i'd dance with my favorite characters who would give me love and attention and i'd slide down long beautiful hallways in my socks with my friends and the only light is moonlight reflecting through the big windows and you could look out the windows and see all the stars in existence and we'd spend endless nights counting them and giving them names without a care in the world and everyone is loved and appreciated and we'd just all be happy

[lev-myszkin]

so I never cry in public but apparently today I cried while walking on the street because the story of a character that I myself invented months ago was too sad for me myself to handle

[mdconfessions]

🍔🍇?

Grapes: Is your para in love with anyone?

YAAASSS. Justin and Tori are a couple and have been forabout 2 and a half years now. They’ve been through thick and thin together,Tori having thought Justin was dead at one point, and Justin having beentortured to keep Tori safe. They live together now and Justin is planning onasking Tori to marry him soon.

Hamburger: Where does your para usually hang out in theirspare time?

Wow, this one makes me sad just thinking about it.

So, Justin doesn’t have a lot of spare time as a spy, andwhen he does, he usually just chills at home (which at this point is in thebasement of Liam’s house). However, the biggest place away from home that he’llspend time at is his mother’s grave. Yeah, I know, it makes me want to cry too.He doesn’t talk to the gravestone or anything like that, he just sits on thebench nearby, usually thinking and contemplating stuff. Since he has to dealwith a lot of past trauma, he’s often depressed, anxious, etc., and this iswhere he goes when it all gets too much (which is often, unfortunately). Ifsomeone is looking for him and doesn’t know where he is, 99% of the time he’llbe in the cemetery.  

[thebeepestbeeper]

Does anyone else like watching a specific type of show (science fiction, fantasy, slice of life, ect) because it reminds them of their daydreams? 

[maddmacaw]

i write my daydream hubby letters. i obviously cant send them to him so i just put them in my journal. i have fancy stationary just for the purpose. it feels good to write out how you feel and direct it to someone.

[madd-para]

Daydreaming is taking my life away

Sometimes for a moment i stop daydreaming and think about reality...not my reality but everyone elses...i take away all the paras and scenarios and look at my life...my real life...and it shocks me at first because everyone elses reality is so unfamiliar to me