https://www.reddit.com/r/infp/comments/5zdrge/i_feel_like_its_really_hard_for_us_infp_guys_to/dexqunl/
https://www.reddit.com/r/infp/comments/5zdrge/i_feel_like_its_really_hard_for_us_infp_guys_to/dexavf1/
The personal complaint I have as an INFP woman towards firsthand experiences with two INFP men in the past is that I became a logical Thinking type (of) woman in terms of communication and making personal and professional decisions. (Kindly note my midzone score has always been between Sensing and Intuitive but never ever scored/struggled between Thinking/Feeling). Hence, I felt unpleasant and even disappointed as a traditional or ordinary/average INFP woman who doesn’t really want to take the lead role 24/7 yet was forced to in the above-mentioned situations. In other words, I was the one who had to toughen up instead when needed.
My personal opinion as an INFP woman is: Regardless how difficult communication is , it is the key to make relationship work in the end of the day. If INFP men wonder why women feel turned off, may be that is the reason.