#master status

[crippled-peeper]

It's kind of unbelievable how people treat you on this website so often. It's your blog. It is your blog. Do they expect your thoughts, modelled by your own experience and posted on your blog, to cater to them??

I actually think I know why people are like that to me. I think it’s because they don’t see me as a person, but rather a spokesperson or mouthpiece for disability rights in general

They can’t wrap their heads around the fact I could have such “stereotypical” “bad” disabilities and still be a person with feelings. To them I am like a character in a show that they can extract “representation” from if they yell at me loud enough. They don’t seem to grasp that I have friends, feelings, memories, etc.

[kontextmaschine]

Hey holy shit, know what I just remembered?

The concept of "master status", that one identity would define you and override others

Like that you could be a puerto rican lesbian VETERAN or a white male veteran JUNKIE etc. in various situations

Which is like exactly the opposite of modern intersectionality, though somewhat aimed at similar goals

[heruut]

So my thesis was accepted today so I'm now officially done with grad school. This will be the last post with my grad school tag. It's bittersweet, but it's been so amazing to track my progress the last two years. I would really recommend tracking the hard things so you can look back on the challenges and say "Wow. I did that. I've come so far."

[rossitomo]

So when do i become a mPUA?

My future in the PUA Business seems long and enduring, but when will i ever reach mPUA? Well, problem being is that it wont happen unless i go out with other major PUAs...which i dont believe will happen as the best in the craft live over seas. I haven't got the money for such a journey, although i think a natural game would happen as a Brit in the good ol' US of A would make women fall to their knees (Especially with my accent). 2 young "apprentices" of mine, have told me im a mPUA, yet i dont feel like ive attained said status. I have talked to, flirted with, kissed, dated and slept with god knows how many women over the years, but is there a specific number to get to before i take off my PUA status and don the mPUA? I could say that i should up my game, but how when i work so long hours and going out costs a fortune. I suppose my next move maybe to develope my own Game, a new version - like a hybrid Game. Not a mix, but a useful tool, in which i could teach my new apprentices. 

New Energy: Develop a new type of Game.

Ross (Kamo)

[my-dreams-beneath-your-feet]

Perhaps it is just me, but I really don't like to see people go out of their way to compliment people with disabilities.

I find it all rather patronizing. When you gush over the beauty, strength, etc. of someone with a disability it further ostracizes them from the norms of society. Is it nice to call a pretty girl with Downs pretty? Of course. It is far nicer to actually believe it and give her the same treatment you would any other girl. 

I don't know if most of you are going to think I'm way off the mark with this. I just feel that compliments based on overcoming a master status, like handicaps, only reinforce that master status and trivialize a person's achievements. 

A girl who is pretty is pretty because she is pretty. Not because she is "pretty even though she doesn't meet society's expectation." She also isn't oblivious. I feel that there is a line between compliment and condescension that should be far broader than it is. It is a line that would be crossed far less often if people were honest and accepted that there are norms in our society that we understandably struggle to deny. Stop trying to make up for the norms of the society you live in and honestly live outside of them yourself. If she's pretty, tell her she's pretty. Treat her like you would any other pretty girl. Honestly, with genuine appreciation.