so like i had a friendd who had been cheated on a few times
completely seperate to that i was talking tl them about a polyam ship i enjoy because the topuc was shipping for some reason
they told me to shush because they have "poly trauma"
shut up shut up shut up cheating is not polyamory that is a completely different experience ahut up shut uppppppp
anyways ii dont talk to them as much anymore for many reasons including this
This is polyphobia
I am glad you're not friends with them anymore, anon. Friendships with people that don't respect you/your identity are incredibly hurtful, so friendly reminder that you all deserve someone who respects you!
Poly trauma is also ableist, in my opinion, because trauma is trauma no matter the source of it.
I have had trauma related to bisexual people who have hurt me in the past, I have no such thing as "bisexual trauma", for example.
What you could have is a trigger! that's valid, but in this case, their trauma is about cheating, not polyamory. The fact they are triggered by polyamory is because of their association of cheating with nonmonogamy
Sorry if I included a little ramble about mental health, I always like to add a few thoughts to my posts.