hello! this is an account inspired by @this-is-ableism , @this-is-accessibility , @this-is-transandrophobia, and similar blogs!
You can call me Low Res, or just Low!
Simply, I will point out example of blatant or not-as-blatant polyphobia both in my personal life and from others. This includes all labels under the umbrella of polyamory!
this is not my main account!
What is polyphobia?
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polyphobia describes the prejudice, discrimination, or fear directed toward polyamorous people and polyamory (non-monogamous relationships).
the person behind this account is polyamorous and in a polucule. keep in mind every kind of polyamorous relationship / open relationship is welcomed here. There will be no discrimination.
I use poly and polyam interchangeably. That's not going to change. Asks telling me that are going to be deleted.
My username is poly-phobia because this-is-polyphobia was already taken. Stop asking me to change it.
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pfp is by me!
tags!
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#this is polyphobia -> for posts talking with submissions/asks or my own experiences talking about discrimination against nonmonogamous people (accidental or not)
#this is not polyphobia! -> for posts that are not about discrimination at all. Could be jokes, experiences, or resources.
who can submit an ask? and what is allowed in them?
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Any experiences about being nonmonogamous are welcome, whether or not it's your experience with being discriminated against or not.
Asks asking my opinion on certain situations/stances are going to be ignored, as that's not the point of this blog and i believe my stances to be irrelevant, as I wish to support all people who want to find a community here. I want everyone to have a safe space.
Some of my stances should be obvious anyway. The important ones are.
asks about my preferences on things are accepted, and generally replied to publically. If it's about a non general matter, I would prefer to be DM-ed!
(example: asking me if I'm okay being called certain terms will be answered publically. asks inviting me to events are better for DMs)
More are in the making! I plan transmasc, transfem, polysexual, nixic, agender, demiboy, demigirl, demigender, unlabeled, and i am unsure if it's appropriate to make a straight ally?
any suggestion is welcome!!
list of the flags portrayed (top to bottom, left to right)
1- intersex
2- omnisexual
3- nonbinary
4- genderfluid
5- aroace
6- polyamorous
7- transgender (i think that's the right term? i hear some people say transsexual too)
(I recalled already making a post for this, but I drafted it instead of posting it. I apologize for being so late)
HAPPY PRIDE MONTH!!!
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I wish a happy pride month to anyone who is queer, questioning, or supportive! I wish a happy pride month to all the people that follow this account, whether or not they are polyamorous or not!
I want everyone to be happy with themselves, you are valid, you are perfect, and you are loved. I hope you find a partner if you desire one, multiple if you want, or none at all if that's what you prefer! I hope you have friends you can celebrate with, and I wish happy pride to them too!
We are queer all year round, so always be proud of who you are!
Monogamous people with dozens of exes and the most horrifying relationship history you've ever heard of in your entire life: "Well I just can't support polyamory, because those relationships never work out"
Question unrelated to polyphobia, what’s ur favorite poly ships! Mind are
Polytrix (kpdh)
Justice league as one big polycule (sans Shazam for obvious reasons)
Timberkon (Tim Drake, his canon boyfriend, and Konner Kent)
The scooby gang (stole this idea from alienby)
Pennywaynes (Alfred x Martha and Thomas)
Elphaba/glinda/fiero
And ANY love triangle (it can’t be a true triangle unless they’re all attracted to one another or else it’s a love angle and unless it’s like ohh well the secondary love interest is irredeemably evil but that’s always a cop out)
-🧦
The scooby gang! Absolutely!
I don't really get involved with shipping, nothing against it, it's just not my thing!
I have seen a ship with Dazai, Fyodor, Sigma and Nikolai in Bungo Stray Dogs, and I really liked it
other than that, I'm mostly neutral when it comes to any kind of ships
I told my classmates I have a polycule today, they reacted very well!
I'm not sure if I would call it "coming out", because I have never been in the closet in the first place, I simply never mentioned it.
They all had pretty much the same reaction, either saying "oh wow, so many people!" when I listed all my partners, saying that's interesting, and some said it's admirable that I can communicate with my partners so well.
They were curious and asked me a few questions, they were happy for me!
So I've decided I'm gonna research polyamory so that when I come out to my parents I can destroy them with Facts and Logic. Do you have any resources where I could start?
Hi! Firstly I want to say, do be careful if you live with your parents; it's not unheard of for living situations for polyam people to become hostile if parents/family members aren't accepting. This post from @/polyamorousmood has good advice on this topic, though the situation anon describes there is different from yours.
This thread and this thread from Polyamory.com are older, but describe experiences of real people who have come out as polyamorous and the responses they've gotten from folks in their lives. They're good food for thought as you move forward with making the decision. More perspectives in a Reddit thread here.
I don't want to discourage you from coming out on the basis that it's something you should feel ashamed of, but I think it would be irresponsible of me to advise you to go for it when I don't know your situation. Safety and security come first!
All that being said, here are some resources that I think are credible for reference:
OPEN's Consensual Non-Monogamy Fact Sheet: Includes both a CNM 101 section and a Myths & Misconceptions section, both backed up by research.
More Than Two's Polyamory FAQ: This is written as a conversation between a polyam skeptic and a polyamorous person, and is a great resource for having prepared responses to questions you may get asked.
More Than Two's Polyamory 101: This is a PDF that includes a number of definitions as well as more myths/misconceptions debunked.
I hope this is helpful! If anyone else has advice or other resources please feel free to reply or reblog!
so like i had a friendd who had been cheated on a few times
completely seperate to that i was talking tl them about a polyam ship i enjoy because the topuc was shipping for some reason
they told me to shush because they have "poly trauma"
shut up shut up shut up cheating is not polyamory that is a completely different experience ahut up shut uppppppp
anyways ii dont talk to them as much anymore for many reasons including this
This is polyphobia
I am glad you're not friends with them anymore, anon. Friendships with people that don't respect you/your identity are incredibly hurtful, so friendly reminder that you all deserve someone who respects you!
Poly trauma is also ableist, in my opinion, because trauma is trauma no matter the source of it.
I have had trauma related to bisexual people who have hurt me in the past, I have no such thing as "bisexual trauma", for example.
What you could have is a trigger! that's valid, but in this case, their trauma is about cheating, not polyamory. The fact they are triggered by polyamory is because of their association of cheating with nonmonogamy
Sorry if I included a little ramble about mental health, I always like to add a few thoughts to my posts.
Polyamory is safe for work. Polyamory is safe for kids. Polyamory is safe for day time tv. Polyamory isn’t more sexual than any other relationship and it can be just as romantic, sweet, and healthy.
