a really close friend of my family passed away the other day. close to where i would send school pics of my kids, at their request. they consider my kids on the same level as their great-grand kids. i'd lost touch with them, personally, but my mom kept me up-to-date with how they were.
like i legit cried when mom told me he'd passed. and i feel really bad that i won't be able to go to the viewing/funeral. i've asked my mom to give the wife my love/condolences; i feel like i should send a card (with most recent kids pics). otoh i feel like it won't be enough to show how much i respected him and love them both.
i'm probably overthinking the whole thing. and will send a card (she's of the generation that would expect/appreciate it). but it's going to weigh on my heart for a while.