Hey! Your posts are really interesting! I'm quite new to this MBTI thing, and I was wondering how you tell what types people are? Do you get all your friends to take a test, or do you just intuitively judge (haha, get it?) their type? If it's the latter do you have any tips for telling what types people are? I have a bit of trouble distinguishing the S and N part especially. Also could you please tell me what the ENFJ x ESFP relationship looks like? Does it work? Thanks, keep up the awesomeness!
My older siblings (all million, er, three of them) are the ones who got me into MBTI, and we’ve talked about it SO MUCH. No, more than that. We Skype every Sunday night, since we live in different places, and half of the time discussion devolves into MBTI speak. We're all N-types, so take that as you will.At first a lot of it was gobble-de-gook, and indignation that we’re not all as unique and snowflakey like we’d like to think, but after awhile it’s easy to spot patterns in behaviour, personality traits, and expression. Sometimes I meet people and I’m like WHOA, RAGING ISTP ALERT. Other times it takes me a long while to even form an educated guess.What really helps me spot specific MBTI-types (and apologies if this gets MBTI controversial) is that two of my sisters developed a pretty extensive MBTI-HogwartsHouse theory. I didn’t really pay attention initially, but it makes solid sense to me now, and makes typing people easy. People’s motivations and values are pretty revealing. If I had a dollar for every time I’ve heard an ISFP Slytherin say “WINNING!” without irony… Let’s just say it’s a thing that happens. My sister has a blog (http://mbti-sorted.livejournal.com/) if you want to know more. She’s smart, so give her discourse and trouble (polite trouble!) if you’re interested in that type of thing.
Hmm. I’ll post an S/N litmus test later, puppet theatre style. As for ENFJ/ESFP - I’ll do a puppet theatre for that one later, too. But, like, the thing about relationships is that theoretically any two types could be in a relationship that “works” - if they are well rounded, functional people. That’s what I think, anyways. DON’T LET MBTI BE YOUR BOSS! If anything, it’s a great tool that’s can give you extra patience/understanding when dealing with people that see, and react to, the world differently than you do. Like, as a result of MBTI awareness, I get to enjoy the company and smarts of people that would probably otherwise drive me to drink ;)
Thanks for the lovely message!