So this is a post I've been working on for awhile now, and I wrote some of this along with this reblog. But I felt it was important to still make a separate post for this topic as well.
I loved the new episode because its a huge part of learning to deal with your temper, or anything similar, to embrace the reality and take control of something that you have always believed or been told is out of your control.
Huey controls his temper now, or is at least learning too. Its a hard thing, and I'm so glad the writers are moving in that direction but it scares me as well.
Everyone has a bad part to themselves, its how you handle it, express it, and control it that matters. I really, really liked the scene and I hope it doesn't get taken out of context (used as an excuse to behave however you want).
The way the media has always delt with characters who have a temper or bouts of anger has bothered me for awhile.
And while I love the parallel of "inheriting" the McDuck temper, to me...its not a positive thing that everyone keeps making it seem, but its a real thing, i can at least appreciate that.
I learned my temper from my dad, and his is not....pretty. Its rough emotionally growing up with that, and being around that. It's rough being that person and learning the damage you cause around you.
I tired of being angry, I'm tired of anger being used as almost a positive and likable character trait. It sucks and its time we encouraged positive ways to handle it, then to just let it run free.
So while I'm glad Huey is getting this moment of dealing with that, please DO NOT encourage this as a positive thing. Its nasty, and mean, and fills you with guilt. Its not funny, or should it be used for fun entertainment. I understand a need to show real characters, someone everyone can relate with, but there is a balance.
Donald was always the character I related to the most as a child because we both had a "temper" and it was always put in a "funny" or "positive" light...its not. I had to relearn a lot things about myself, take notice of my surroundings in greater detail than before. The moment I stop focusing on my emotions, reactions, and thought process I slip and it sucks, its exhausting, but worth it.
And wonderful thing is, Donald and I have both grown. This version of Donald is my favorite, because he's more than just the angry guy who makes everyone laugh. He's a family man who loves and works hard and his temper has only been shown (except in the pilot and a few smaller instances) as a means to protect his family. The scene with his therapist was also so wonderfully emotionally for me. This version of Donald means so much to me.
Huey is getting that chance as well. A chance to positively represent emotions for other kids who are dealing with the same things I did and do. This is just so important to me especially when the last few years the messages have been "you don't control your emotions" and "feeling anything and everything is good".
Remember you control your actions, you control how you interact with situations and people, you control everything about YOU.
Mistakes will be made, and sometimes you will need to apologize, try something new, and rely on people.
Work hard and learn about yourself. Just because its a part of you doesn't mean it is you.
I am an irritable, emotionally driven, excitable, anxious, easily worked up beautiful mess. I am also trying on so hard to be kind, loving, patient (dang that's a hard one) genuinely happy (not that fake happiness that's just anger dresses up in a pretty disguise) and enjoy everything life throws at me. I rely on God and my husband and this is a fight I will fight everyday. Its not something that will go away, but its something I can gain better control over every year.
This means so much to me, and I love each and everyone of you that related to this as well. 💛
I hope for the best writing possible when it comes to this lesson, thank you so much for reading my long messy feelings.