Comprehensive list of Alexander Hamilton’s lovers (both speculated & confirmed).
- A free Black woman. (almost certainly not supported by credible documentation.) There is overall no proof or evidence Hamilton sought out such a woman; however, the son of the unnamed Black woman is identified as William Hamilton━a very prominent African-American orator and abolitionist. Depending on his birth date of 1755/57, he would have been either 18 or 16 at the time of William's birth.
- Elizabeth Hamilton (née Schuyler). Of course, his wife! Hamilton and Eliza met in winter of 1780, corresponded by letter, became engaged and married that same year. Eliza weathered his political rise, scandal (the affair below), his death (1804) and lived on until 1854. The couple had eight children and were, by all accounts, an incredibly loving and successful relationship!
- Angelica Church (née Schuyler). (strongly suggested flirtation/affection, no firm proof of full affair.) Elizabeth’s older sister. She and Hamilton shared lively correspondence and intellectual chemistry. Angelica was already married with children by the time she and Hamilton met closely (making a formal affair unlikely), however historians such as Randall or Hendrickson speculate an affair between the pair, while John C. Miller claims Angelica held unrequited feelings for Hamilton. One (in)famous letter from Angelica to Eliza noted her affection for Hamilton: “for I love him very much and if you were as generous as the old Romans, you would lend him to me for a little while.”
- John Laurens. (strongly speculated male lover.) Hamilton and Laurens were close friends during the Revolutionary War. Letters between them show affectionate and intense language, and there is plenty of evidence to speculate about an affair—in fact, when you compare it to Hamilton and Angelica, the case for Laurens is arguably stronger. The correspondence between Hamilton and Laurens is far more intimate, emotionally charged, and sustained over time. Unlike the flirtatious but largely social and intellectual exchanges with Angelica, Hamilton and Laurens shared a much deeper, far more personal bond and Laurens’ death deeply disturbed Hamilton, who lost one of his closest confidants.
- Marie-Joseph Paul Yves Roch Gilbert du Motier, Marquis de Lafayette. (strongly speculated male lover.) Much like Laurens, Lafayette was Hamilton’s close friend during and after the Revolutionary War. The marquis writes to Hamilton in 1780: “my sentiment has increased to such a point, the world knows nothing about. To shew both from want and from scorn of expressions I shall only tell you.” Alexander, Gilbert and John were speculated to have been in a relationship.
- Maria Reynolds (née Lewis...slash-Clingman-slash-Mathew). Hamilton’s only confirmed extramarital affair. The affair began in 1791 when Hamilton, already married to Eliza, was approached by Maria in Philadelphia, who begged him for financial aid. James, Maria’s husband, soon caught wind of the affair and proceeded to blackmail Hamilton for a year, pressuring him into paying hush money to keep the scandal quiet. Hamilton later publicly admitted the affair in the infamous Reynolds Pamphlet (1797), a document meant to clear him of financial corruption but which scandalized the nation by exposing his moral failing.
- Aaron Burr Jr. (speculated crush with no substantial evidence.) While there is no evidence of a physical or romantic relationship between Hamilton and Burr, J. Michael Mahoney, in Schizophrenia: The Bearded Lady Disease, argues that Hamilton’s obsessive hatred may have stemmed from a “powerful, unconscious homosexual attraction” to Burr. According to this interpretation, Hamilton’s extreme paranoia, recurring illnesses, and ultimately his behavior at the infamous 1804 duel could be read symbolically as reflecting a deeply conflicted, passive submission to Burr—literally offering himself in a “helpless physical posture” at the duel. This interpretation is speculative, controversial, and unprovable.
Hamilton has been described as “flirtatious” in social settings, especially in his youth. Some sources note that early in his time in New York/Winter 1780, he may have enthused over one “Cornelia Lott.” A poem by his friend Webb referenced him being “madly in love with a new woman every week” before marrying Eliza, referencing Cornelia by her last name. No documented affair beyond Maria exists, but there are some significant pattern‑indicators: frequent socialising, letters of admiration, and a charismatic personality that attracted many women. Because of those patterns, it is reasonable (though unprovable) to speculate Hamilton may have had other romantic/flirtatious connections with women in his social circle for which no records survive.
Alexander Hamilton’s affections, desires, and speculations are incredibly interesting to me. From the confirmed (sorry, Maria) to the plausible (Laurens, Lafayette) to the purely theoretical (Burr...and maybe literally everyone else he ever met at a party), Hamilton’s love life was certainly as dramatic and intense as his politics.












