Thoughts on the Single Life
(note: if you are in a relationship or a discontent single, I mean no offense by anything I say, but I acknowledge that people feel very strongly about love and relationships. These are just my opinions, so take them or leave them.)
I've been single my whole life. No really. Never had a boyfriend. Had a stalker once, but that doesn't count, now, does it? Everyone always says things like "You'll find somebody someday," or "don't worry, sweetie, you just haven't found the right boy yet."
You know what? I'm not looking.
I know what you're thinking, because I've heard that too. No, I'm not some feminist man-hater. No, I haven't been scared off men because of my horrible experience. No, I'm not actively avoiding men either. I'm simply not looking.
The fact is, I don't have the time or the energy to be in a relationship right now. I'm busy, with school and extracurriculars. Having a boyfriend is not a priority in my life. That's just me, remember, but it's a fact. I'd rather spend time studying and in class, and spend my free time doing things like writing. It'd be different if I found a guy I really liked, but until then, I'm not going to date just to date. I totally get that a lot of people enjoy that, but I'm an introvert and it just takes too much energy.
And guess what else? I'm pretty damn tired about people comforting me or expressing sympathy about my being single. I'm also freaking sick of people trying to change my mind by telling me how falling in love was life changing and blah blah blah.
Yeah, I know! But I'm not looking for my mind to be changed. I'm sincerely really happy for you. But if your only aim in sharing your relationship success is to make me seek out a boyfriend, then bugger off! I love hearing relationship success if you're sharing your happiness, but if you are telling me how I should be getting married, I am trying not to throttle you.
I also really hate when single people sit around pitying themselves for being single! I understand that many people are lonely. So am I sometimes! I understand some people long for relationships. But try and see the positives, if you can. You are a strong, single person (lady, usually!) and you need to get out there if you want. Or, enjoy laying in bed in sweats and eating ice cream without caring, or not putting on all your makeup every day.
Moral of this is: I've finally completely come to terms with my feelings about being single. I like it. I have no real desire for a boyfriend. It's freeing.
Not to say I won't change my mind when the right boy comes around, but for now, it's enough to have my girlfriends.
