I saw your response to the op who wrote about Takumi and Hinoka's supports and I agree 100%. To add to what you said, one has to remember that as a kid, Hinoka was extremely reckless, and nearly killed herself once while doing so. Since she's distant to Takumi, she doesn't really know that issues stem from self-esteem, and thinks they come from the same defiant recklessness she had, so her first impulse is to berate him for his actions. It doesn't justify her, but it's something to think about.
Thank you for pointing that last one out to me. I didn’t quite remember that childhood incident in this context (I mostly remember it as one of the rare instances where it is pointed out that Mikoto isn’t the Broshidos bio-mom outside the royal S-supports.).
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But yeah, Hinoka likely thought back to that moment when she was confronting Takumi in their A-support . Only I think her “defiant recklessness” could also have been caused by a lack of self-esteem, though not produced by a lack of attention or affection as with Takumi. It’s quite apparent that the incident of Corrin’s kidnapping made Hinoka go on an obsession-fueled quest to save them, viewing it as her duty as an older sister. In fact, she seems to really identify herself not just in the role of “big sister”, but in the role of “Corrin’s big sister”. The strong, capable warrior who will become the heroic saviour of her kidnapped younger sibling. (Takumi and Sakura falling by the wayside, since they couldn’t provide her with the same scenario, and then eventually began to show emotional damage that she both doesn’t know how to solve and is actively scared of.)
It is a strong concept that I feel she based her self-worth on. So all her suicidal marches into Nohr were just as much based on a desire to “prove herself as a capable older sister.” as Takumi’s were based on a desire to “prove himself as a capable warrior.”
The implication of course in both cases being “or else I am worthless.”.
This is also perfectly demonstrated in her Revelations support with Camilla. Since Corrin is now back in her life, Hinoka recognizes that she can’t just be “the protective warrior sister” anymore, especially now that she has active competition in Camilla. But instead of recognizing the importance of the emotional support she could give, she focuses on her ‘failings’ in portraying a “feminine ideal” as part of her role as an older sister. Another external conception of identity.
Let us look back at her talk with Mikoto vs. the A support with Takumi: She essentially gives him the same speech to deter him from running of again, but in a very different tone that made all the difference. While she was ultimately rejected, Mikoto’s approach wasn’t bad. She was obviously very emotionally distraugth to the point of crying, and her “don’t go” and “please don’t say such things” was a heartfelt plea. Plus, she simply said “I would be sad if you died” as a statement to mean “I care for your well-being”.
Now Hinoka, who even admits that she didn’t get the message until much later uses a much more aggressive tone when confronting Takumi. It’s clear that she is also emotionally distraught, but she comes across as actively demanding him to stop “thinking that way”. This also causes her telling Takumi about how sad she would be if he died to feel less like “I care for you” and more “Have you thought about MY feelings here?? Do you WANT me to feel sad?? Are you that SELFISH!?” Even worse when she uses Corrin as a comparison.
But yeah, this just goes to show how emotionally maladjusted Hinoka is, and that she simply wasn’t equipped to properly handle Takumi here. It’s a real shame that there are no therapists in FE..