Hey, I've realized that I have a lot of hate and anger stored inside. I don't know how to control my anger. I just burst out crying or end up throwing things and punching walls. Some times I feel like really just want to literally every single person in my family. And frankly, sometimes I scare my self. I don't want to be known as the girl who has a lot rage and who is always mad.
Hi dearie!
Anger can be a really tough emotion to deal with, it's strong and it can make you feel very out of control, especially when there's a lot of it and you're not sure quite how to express it. You're not alone in that at all! Lot's of people struggle with their anger. Thankfully there are plenty of techniques and resources that you can try to help with this.First of all I suggest you take a look at this page, it has some strategies and tools that you can use to help understand what causes you to become angry, and how to better.manage those feelings when they arise. One thing that I've found very helpful for myself when trying to calm down is making a "safe space" where I can go if I need to time out of a few minutes, breath, and gather my thoughts. A change of scenery can do wonders sometimes I think. Mine is behind my house, but you can have your safe space just about anywhere. Make your safe space a place where you feel comfortable and fill it will things that are soothing and that you like. I have a pretty rose scented candle and a blanket that I love in mine. I have a friend who has her safe space in a closet and she draws on the walls and listens to music, it's entirely up to you!I've also found that doing things like ripping up paper or erasers can be a way to safely vent frustration and anger, and then you can use the scraps for art projects later if you'd like!Ultimately, if you feel like your anger is getting out of control in a way that you feel you can't handle or if it might affect your safety, it may be a good idea to see about talking to a counselor or other trained professional! A professional will be able to help you look at your situation in a much more in depth way and help you build skills to manage those strong feelings better.Lots of love and good luck!
Fly on, Sam