Not sure why I'm sending this to a stranger, it's private, but I need to get it out. I recently became honest with myself and my friends that I'm bi, but I think I might be discovering I'm polyamorous as well, and I'm in love with two people who are definitely monogamous. It hurts sometimes that I can't have either of them without hurting the other, I can't be with both of them without them severely compromising, which I wouldn't want anyways, and I can't reject both without hurting myself.
That’s a really tough situation to be in and I’m sorry to hear that you’re going through that. I think dealing with polyamory issues like that is especially hard on bi/pan folks because we’re already stigmatized for not “making a choice.” Please know that there is nothing wrong with any of these aspects of your sexuality and it’s okay to feel frustrated about the situation. There is no easy answer here but I hope things progress in your favor, whatever that ends up being.
