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Hey there friend! Not really a confession for the series but Thank you for all the work you put into these. The careful choice in photos you use behind the text is wonderful and appreciated!
Happy to provide, friend! I've definitely gotten a bit backlogged on answering but I'm getting through them! It's nice to know they go appreciated. :)
Cipher, what does it mean to have "Dream Demon Powers?" Are you like Freddy Krueger? ~💙
Question: When should you be concerned about not having an s.o. yet?
S: Something that I see very commonly is people posting online about how they’re 16 or 20 or 21 and they have never dated someone. There’s no time limit on getting your first significant other so never let yourself feel bad for not having met someone by a certain age! Even if you’re 30 years old or however old you may be; don’t let yourself feel ugly or unwanted. It happens at different times for different people. Nothing is wrong with you!
I personally met my boyfriend at my first job (McDonald’s) when I was 18. My previous experience with guys were… well I had none. I had never kissed a guy, no one had ever asked me out before or confessed their feelings to me. Oh!!! Well I had done some talking to guys online before, but none of those relationships with guys ever led to anything serious? The conversations with my boyfriend generally would consist of work topics (how busy work was so far). We had very brief conversations, but I found him to be cute and nice and my work had given me some better social skills, so after a few days of small talk, I actually ended up writing my number on a napkin and handing it to him while we were both working. A few days later we started texting, he asked me out, and we started dating. That was all in the summer of 2013.
If you feel as if you are ready for and open to having a relationship then here are some suggestions! Get a job or join a club! You can meet lots of new people this way, which can lead to relationships! Don’t be shy at school (university or high school) if you see someone that you like, try to make up some casual conversation about whatever is happening in school or class! Online is a good place to find people as well, but make sure that you are safe and never give away too much information at first. If you’re going to date exclusively online, then you should webcam them, talk to them on the phone, and see pictures (but most importantly skype or facetime!!! We’ve all watched catfish). Have a puppy? Go to a dog park and socialize yourself and your dog!
You can bump into your future partner anywhere at any time, but those are just a few suggestions on where you can go to meet people. When I met my boyfriend though, I wasn’t searching for a boyfriend. Sometimes you’ll meet someone when you just aren’t looking so don’t become obsessed with the idea of it. Make sure that you are taking care of yourself first and reaching your dreams and goals! Love always, Shay
C: It depends on how important being in a relationship is to you, of course, but I’m inclined to say: don’t stress. There is no clock running out on when you can find someone you enjoy spending time with. Besides, romantic relationships aren’t inherently more meaningful than platonic ones. So if it’s societal pressure that’s making you feel like you need someone to be complete, tell society to fuck off. That being said, if you do genuinely want to be in a relationship, I can sympathize.
I’m what the kids call a serial monogamist. I started dating when I was in middle school—and I mean really dating, like going on dates and stuff, not just saying you are dating. My history with that goes all the way back to like age 5 or something. Anyway, in the decade-ish since I started dating, I have had 7 relationships with varying degrees of success. I regret probably 2 of them. I am not a person who feels comfortable being single. (I also had a problem saying no to people for years due to some bullshit childhood trauma, which was behind like half those relationships.) And you may say, “Carmen, you have no right giving advice about this shit! You’re in a relationship right now! You haven’t been ‘single’ for more than a month in over 4 years.” And hey, that’s fair. HOWEVER. Shay and I’s dynamic is based on her having common sense and therefore good advice, and me making lots of mistakes and therefore knowing what not to do. And here’s the short version of what I’ve learned from those 7 relationships: you can find people anywhere and be compatible with anyone. The whole concept of soulmates is Hollywood bullshit and puts too much stress on finding the “one”. Spoiler: they don’t exist. What does exist is varying levels of compatibility. And you won’t know until you try! So if being in a relationship is important to you, talk to people. Find someone who you enjoy hanging out with. That’s most of what an adult relationship is, anyway. Cotton Candy and I spend most of our time either watching TV, cooking, or talking about life and our mutual friends while we fall asleep. I met him through the theatre group on campus. Other relationships started through classes, swimming, or mutual friends. You can meet people anywhere. But the most important thing? Take the pressure off. Let yourself move at your own pace. There’s no checklist you have to follow to find love at certain times. You will be okay, I promise.
Take care of you. - Carmen
Hi, what happened to mod Rapper (their blog hasn't been updated in 2 years) and SD's blog is completely gone :(
Hi! Unfortunately I don't have an answer, I would say the last time I talked to mod Rapper was about that, two years ago. My assumption on that would just be they moved on. It happens!
its great to see theres active blogs dedicated to this series! thanks for running it!
Sorry I only just got to you! It’s my pleasure to continue to bring content to all you folks who still keep up. There will continue to be Monster confessions for as long as you folks keep submitting them!
((despite the post I just made about tracing, I’m going to try and draw myself, Lydia, and Aurora tomorrow morning. Sorry for the updates. -Mod Carmen))
((I trace most of my drawings,, so most of my asks will have a link to them underneath -Mod Carmen))
