#modviolence

[lesperlesdusims-blog]

Voila le mod ‘violence’

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[thedivinecomedyofsocialjustice]

I am so confused by feminists outraged by sexualization of women who act like men are some kinda evil raping machines for it because like... have these women never been in a fandom?!?

Like have they never seen the amount of sexualization that goes on about actual living people? Like with Markiplier and Cry for example, tons of fangirls make objectifying comments about them (and Cry has expressed at least once that he’s uncomfortable with people constantly commenting about how his voice is sexy rather than about the actual content of his videos, from what I remember), they hate on their partners (Cry’s girlfriend got hate, also Pewdiepie’s girlfriend got hate for example and even death threats) because they are jealous or because “she gets on the way of the ship” (there is a lot of homoerotic fetishization, especially the whole “Pewdiecry” thing, that they are both ok with to a certain extent. But some people really take it too far and forget these are living people).

Or the sexualization of male actors (that also get fetishized in a homoerotic fashion with each other. No, not just the characters, the actual living people), and the sexualization of fictional characters in general.

Like, a fuckton of fanarts, fanfics and headcanons made by fangirls? It’s not only full of gay (and even trans) fetishization, most of it involves guys being raped, sometimes with unfortunate implications (like being “turned gay” or having the victim fall in love with the rapist). Most of it involves terrible things happen to the guys in questions even when it’s not rape, because suffering men are seen as erotic.

Look at the Hannibal fandom for fuck’s sake, the main ship (Hannigram) is between a serial killer who is a psychiatrist in a position of power over a mentally ill guy who he manipulates and gaslights and in general constantly uses his power over him to harm him. All this is sexualized to no end (one of the most sexualized scenes is one where said psychiatrist forces a plastic tube down the other man’s throat. Kinda rapey, isn’t it?).

The Harry Potter fandom? One of the most popular ships is Snarry (Severus Snape/Harry Potter), I don’t really think I have to explain why such a relationship would be unhealthy even without bringing up the whole age issue (most characters in HP are under 17 which makes them underage by American standards). In general, go into the HP section of a fanart or fanfic website and count how many of the artworks (usually made by women) are about men getting raped.

Hell, you want to talk about “creepy lolicon bronies”? How about “creepy shotacon fangirls” for that matter? Wanna talk about the sonic fandom? Wanna talk about the children’s cartoons tag on y!Gallery? Wanna talk about female shotacon mangaka?

No, you’re not gonna talk about any of this because then you’d have to admit that women’s sexuality is not some pure and gentle thing but it’s actually exactly as fucked up as male sexuality, and that’s not convenient for pushing your male-demonizing agenda now is it.

PS: I’d like to specify that I didn’t write this to condemn anyone’s turn-ons. If you understand that some fictional things that arouse you are wrong in real life and you don’t paint abusive relationships as cute and adorable and you don’t sexually harass actual living people, you have no reason to feel bad.

Hell, if I know so much about this side of the fandom is because I’ve been interacting with it so much. I know that most people who do this kind of sexualization are harmless. I have issues with people treating some things as if they are light matters and actually arguing that X abusive thing is not abusive, but even then it mostly comes from ignorance and limited understanding and what is needed to do is to explain and reprimand when it goes to far, not to paint people as evil.

What I am condemning with this post is the hypocrisy of painting men as Terribad Perverts when women’s perversions are exactly as fucked up.

If you have a problem with men having fucked up perversions but not with women having the exact same fucked up perversions, guess what you are a fucking hypocrite.

- Mod Violence

[thedivinecomedyofsocialjustice]

You don't think this way. Me too, but there are some people who do

sorry anon, I had misunderstood your post yesterday.

- Sloth

[thedivinecomedyofsocialjustice]

Dude Sloth you have every right to be mad. "Trans women are more oppressed than trans men." What a fucking shitty thing to say when it's not even time to play the "who's more oppressed" game. A little boy is dead and is getting not even half the amount of press or attention Leelah did and all they have to say is that shit? A trans kid is still dead because of transphobia. That person was sickening and this is exactly what's wrong with this site.

To be fair that person later clarified a bit more, and my reply was not the greatest either. But I am upset because these are such similar situations and yet one of these persons is basically regarded as a martyr while the other is barely acknowledged. I hate to think that it’s because he was a trans man, but I don’t know, that to me is just the confirmation that tumblr doesn’t consider trans men to be worthy of attention since we are still icky men. I could be wrong, mind you, but I still find it weird and sad.

- Sloth

[thedivinecomedyofsocialjustice]

Why is your signature "sloth"

'cause I'm lazy as fuck lol

Serious answer is that since this is a deadly sin themed blog, each mod signs with a different sin.

- Sloth

[thedivinecomedyofsocialjustice]

It just occurred to me, that both Leelah and Zander weren't "just" victims of transphobia but they were victims of transphobia and abuse. Both of them addressed their abusive parents in their letters, and in particular Leelah's mother was completely in denial about her daughter being a girl and a suicide victim and had no photos of her in her facebook despite having tons of photos of her other children and Zander strongly addressed the abuse he suffered from his mother.

It doesn't detract from the way society treats trans people and how this most definitely had an influence in their deaths, it's just as much important to remember that abuse played a part in that and a lot of children are victims of abuse, in particular LGBT children.

Please remember that you can't "cure" being LGBT with parenting, you can't just make your child straight and cis and sexual, but maybe you can avoid them hurting so much that they'd rather die if you don't treat them like shit.

Please speak out against both abuse and transphobia, both can be equally as deadly and as life-wrecking, especially together.

- Sloth

[thedivinecomedyofsocialjustice]

Here is some shitty logic: Leelah died first so people were more interested in that... now, another person, same story. Also, trans girls seems to be less oppressed to society than trans boys

I don’t think trans girl are less oppressed than trans boys at all. I do think trans girls are more oppressed. I simply don’t think it’s an excuse for the silence.

- Sloth

[thedivinecomedyofsocialjustice]

So much for trans men "getting all the support on tumblr".

When Leelah died my dash was FULL of posts about her, immediately after her death.

Zander has died this Sunday and I have seen I think THREE posts about him in my dash since then.

Why are the people who spoke up about Leelah staying silent now?

- Sloth