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♥ What's the WORST thing that has happened to you rp wise?
Luckily, I’ve kept a pretty calm space on my blog. I would say the worst thing that has happened to me was when I was messaging someone on discord (they messaged me first on here, we moved to discord). Eventually, a day after or so, they were messaging me non-stop in my dms because I was writing with a person on here that had the same face claim as their oc. They were really downplaying their oc and saying really negative things about them. I had to really put my boundaries in place because while I understood they were going through a hard time, I didn’t want to be around someone who would go off suddenly about a fc I was writing with. I could tell it wouldn’t end well for my mental health if I wrote with them any longer, so I stepped away from interacting with them.
☄ Have you ever been in the middle of drama?
As I said, I try to stay out of drama. I tend to unfollow people who make call-out posts because it gives me a lot of anxiety personally. But I guess I sort of have gotten into some drama in the past. I would say it was mild.
One time, I felt like I was being pushed out of a community that I really liked, both its media and the people writing in the space. I had fostered a lot of friendships and I felt like, by the end of it, I was being pushed out and ignored. I had to really step away from tumblr for a bit because it was really affecting my mental health at the time. It made me question the portrayals of my muses, my blog as a whole, and roleplaying in general that I almost quit tumblr rp. It made me feel replaceable in all honesty. I decided that I needed to step back because my dash started to make me feel uncomfortable and distressed, so I unfollowed and didn’t engage with that side of the community. I tried to make my feelings known, but I also was stuck between not wanting to rock the boat, questioning myself, and a bunch of other things. I just didn’t feel a sense of community any longer, so I left that behind me. My interest in that media had severely waned from then. I still love those muses, but I think the sense of community, the dynamics I had built, really influenced my interest in it. So, I took a backseat in writing them recently. I don't have any ill feelings against anyone, I just felt as if I had to step back and curate my space. It just created a little bit of a ripple in the community for me.
☀ What's your rp pet peeve?
A lot of my rp pet peeves are pretty general (personal blogs spam liking, threads being reblogged on personal blogs, godmodding, female muses receiving less attention than male muses, etc), but I think I stumbled across a niche pet peeve of mine that has kind of shaped how I approached roleplaying, I think?
I generally keep my space small, it’s easier to manage when I felt pulled in all different directions when my blog received a lot more attention years ago. I thrive in threads where I know the writer, we established a connection, and we have plotted things out. I don’t have to be close to the other person, but I enjoy writing threads where I actively get to know and speak with the other writer. I can springboard my ideas to them, I can get to know them and their muses, and this is really what I love about writing here.
So, into the pet peeves: I understand my blog is mostly canon characters and that’s the main interest of my blog to many people looking at it, but it stuns my inspiration when I realize another person just wants to interact with my canon character(s). Specifically to make a ship. It’s not required to write with my ocs at all, but I find that it kind of blocks my creativity when I see a lot more interaction and hype for my canons as compared to my ocs. Also, if someone’s just interested in shipping with them. It makes me feel like I’m just being used to fill a need in a way, there’s no interest in my writing, characterization, and the dedication I put into my muses (canon or oc). I have had instances where I’m interested in writing with another muse for shipping purposes, I think we all had that once, and sometimes chemistry happens and a ship forms early on, but I’ve noticed it really unmotivates me if I see a consistent pattern of this behavior on my blog.
I don’t need to be friends with everyone, and not everyone needs to write with my ocs, that’s okay, but when it becomes a pattern and overshadows everything else is where I kind of dim my light for rping. This first became apparent to me when I first made Jacob single-ship, the ac rpc is super small, but all interest for him dwindled after that. It’s not the case now, but that’s when I first noticed it.
