Sometimes I really wish we’d stop saying that bisexuals fall in love with a person, not a gender. As a gay woman, sincerely, so do I. My brain might work differently in terms of which pool of people holds a potential for me to fall in love with, but within that pool, I still fall in love with a person. A whole person. Not a gender.
It’s the same reason why we might find it offensive when some straight people just set up the two gay men they happen to know without taking any further info into account. Yes, they’re both men attracted to other men. No, that’s not enough, they also have to be compatible as people.
Bisexuals are beautiful and deserve all the love and support, just like every other part of the queer community, just like every human being deserves basic respect and dignity as a human. I get that when this slogan was first used, it was meant to empower bisexuals, who had too often been misunderstood and mistreated both by homophobic straights and by ignorant members of the queer community. I’m all here for that! But there has to be a way we can celebrate bisexuals that isn’t reductive to how monosexuals fall in love.
