What do you think about moon & lilith in a crush's 12th house?
I think it can be a disaster tbh 😕 but really it depends on different factors it's not always doom and gloom. It's just not really great for the planet person to be the only one experiencing this 12H Synastry. If they have no planets in the planet person's 12H, things can definitely feel unrequited. Dissecting these placements and assuming there's nothing else going on in the synastry chart, I'd worry about these placements tbh.
The 12H represents your subconscious, your secrets, the things you hide and surpress out of shame, etc. This is also the house of strong spiritual ties, bonds, emotional wounds and blind spots. Naturally, whenever there is activity in this house, both people tend to have a hard time understanding each other. There's always something that is disconnecting them from some sort of proper communication that can piece things together. It's almost like something about one another makes these two individuals feel just out of reach to each other. But the other thing about this 12H activity is that both people quickly become hard to forget to one another. This is because this is the house of deep spirituality & union.
With the Moon here, the planet person can really shine a light on the house person's true emotions and feelings that maybe the house person didn't even know they had. This is because the influence of the planet person makes it so that the house person can't hide anymore. It's like an unraveling of their truest nature when they get around the planet person. This is also true for the planet person but just in a different way. While the planet person makes the house person actually confront their feelings, the house person makes the planet person slow down and reevaluate theirs. Something about the moon person is holding onto something that is not good for them when they meet the house person and so part of the house person's purpose is to help the moon person reconnect with their truest nature and with what they truly want. So when the two of these people meet, both of them don't have it together. At least one of them is hiding something that they're afraid to confront. This could be hidden stress and depression, lack of desire to create and grow, or just a difficult time committing to something more meaningful. It is heavily talked about how hidden this synastry could be and yes, this synastry can totally be indicative of a hidden affair, but what I also think this could mean hat one or both people are not confronting their deep fears about their commitments and what matters to them when the two of them meet. They hold onto secrets in a safe like somebody is constantly threatening to steal their stuff. There could be a lot of secrets between these two people, they keep secrets from each other. Both people will feel very emotionally fulfilled if this is positive synastry, but this placement can also be very exposing and confronting because both people will have to face their shadows with one another.
For the planet person, they could totally bury their feelings for the house person out of fear. This is, of course, because they struggle to express themselves. Something about the moon person scares the house person to be entirely vulnerable as it might feel like the risk is not worth the reward (this isn't always the case, sometimes individuals will throw away their whole lives to be with each other). I personally feel like the house person processes their feelings for the moon person more privately and definitely not super verbally right away. They take their time to sort of scope out the connection and make sure it's safe to express themselves, but the trouble is that this can take forever to get there. I think that sometimes the house person thinks they're granted more time than they actually are, so if and when this connection does not pan out, the house person tends to regret not doing more and not trying to connect with the moon person more personally.
For the moon person, they feel very emotionally attached to the house person. Emotional tie is very strong to the point where the moon person feels telepathically connected and could possibly even feel how the house person is feeling, pick up on physical sensations from the house person thoughts, feelings, actions etc. The moon person is like hyper aware of what's going on between them and the house person, and it could actually make the moon person a little crazy because there's really like no tangible validation in what they are feeling. But, for instance, the moon person can be missing the house person heavily and then suddenly the house person is calling them and asking to see them. This is the telepathy between them, the house person feels it more on a physically sensational level or through their tangible senses whereas the moon person feels its psychically and emotionally. Moon person could totally be very protective of the house person, for no apparent reason. The moon person can feel like there's something that the house person is not telling them and they want to get to the bottom of it all of the freaking time, even if there isn't anything that is hidden. I think that the moon person can assume very poor things about the house person, and a lot of it has to do with the fact that the house person does not know how to communicate their thoughts and feelings so sometimes it could feel like communication is very dry between the two of them. This of course is really confusing for both people but especially the moon person, because when they are together, things are really good and things feel literally out of this realm. If you know anything about 5D sensations, or spiritual connections, this aspect is totally an indicator of that. But when there is that disconnection and uncertainty between both people, things get really dry and really cold right away. It's as if the love and admiration is just gone and in a lot of ways this feels like a betrayal.
Speaking of betrayal. This aspect can certainly imply that there was a deep level of betrayal on one or both parties. Both people are keeping secrets, usually for the house person it's things that they don't want the moon person to know about themselves. Sometimes it's personal things like their traumas and the things that they've been through in the past, but it could also be relationships and marriages and children and secret families etc. If anybody is hiding a relationship, of course it could be both parties, but I've noticed that it's usually the house person. The moon person is hiding more of their emotions around the house person, their emotional fulfillment or desires, they are traumas etc. this is interesting because it could really feel like a utter and total betrayal. This is different from 8th house activity because in the 8th house, it's like both parties could be having an affair, but they are both equally aware and participant. I don't think that's usually the case for 12H synastry. Sadly, I've seen people feel they've found their soulmates only to find their soulmate is married with kids.
Moving onto Lilith. Lilith represents your raw sexuality, your autonomy, your sexual prowess & power, etc. when lilith falls into someone's 12H, it could feel like the Lilith person shines light on the house person's sexual desires that are unspoken. This can indicate a more private or secret sexual affair. It doesn't always have to be an affair, it could just literally be that both people trigger each other's sexual desires in a way that other people can't and that could make things feel a little taboo? Taboo is a big deal when it comes to this specific synastry, and it could literally feel like the lilith person has unlocked a secret door in the house person and behind that door is just a bunch of kinky shit😂 it's like a red room covered in warning signs. I feel that the lilith person invades the house person psyche sexually and brings out very primal and animalistic sexual desires in the house person. Alternatively, I've seen this play out where the Lilith person shines light on the house persons need to emotionally connect, so if the house person is somebody who can sexually detach and have "rough sex" with no feelings, I feel the opposite could happen when they meet Lilith and they could realize that emotional and sexual satisfaction go hand in hand. But of course, Lilith can just turn the house person out and make them into a secret freak 😬😜 Lilith is like the little devil on the house person's shoulder, constantly tempting them. This is a strong affair indicator, but like it's to the point where the house person (if they're the one in a relationship) will do anything to be with Lilith, and vice versa. Lilith or house person will do anything, including traveling to fuck them, cheating on their spouse with each other, or just live this fantasy life together in a spiritual and mental sense. In a wild scenario, house person will destroy their life for 1 night with lilith. In the "best case" scenario, house person heavily fantasizes about sleeping with Lilith (or vice versa) even if they're in a relationship. This is like the kinda synastry that can imply that they both fantasize about each other while having sex with other people (they could even orgasm this way).
Both people tend to have very detailed and intricate sexual fantasies about each other, or they could really think about each other a lot like unhealthily. There could be an obsession about one another, but this could mostly just be that they desire to be together.
When both the Lilith and the moon are in somebody's 12th house, this strengthens the desire to emotionally and sexually connect with one another, and it does add an element of taboo and spiritual connection to the relationship. But I will be totally honest with you I think that this just further confuses both parties, and if this is not a positive synastry or if this is like friends with benefits or something, then this will eventually fade out. Typically 12h synastry implies that they won't forget each other, but I just don't think that there's enough to say that this is a stable connection because both placements can bring a lot of emotional confusion and upheaval. What I can say is that this kind of synastry will probably drive one or those people crazy and push them into a spiritual awakening or spiritual transformation.
