@mothdogs replied to your post:
You’re right and you should say it
okay still nobody reblog this but i was gonna write it in replies and it got too long so i’m posting it here.
it’s so frustrating to me because again. i think it’s really great to have a scene where amy and rory confront the fact that he has this shitty belief that he’s always going to love her more, that he’s always going to sacrifice more for her, that there’s this imbalance in their relationship that he’s both invented through his self loathing and taken on a like. oddly romantic, self-sacrificial attitude towards.
i also think it makes a lot of sense to put it at the beginning of series 7a! both because it’s right after the madame kovarian arc and because series 7a is sort of amy and rory’s epilogue as they spend months in between eleven’s visits becoming not just Adults but Themselves and realize what they actually want form their lives beyond and after traveling with the doctor. rory has to grow out of being insecure in their relationship and amy has to heal and grow out this core belief that she can’t trust anyone completely. in a sense, they kinda have to air this out or they can’t grow into having a longterm healthy marriage.
if you really want to go the baby angle, it even makes sense for their falling out to be about this! rory is insecure and amy is anxious and still not good at coping with her abandonment issues! if she can’t have kids and she knows he wants kids and she’s Not Coping Well from the trauma of being kidnapped and losing her daughter, it makes perfect sense for her to blow up the whole situation rather than deal with it healthfully! i really appreciate, actually, that the show didn’t just drop that and forced it to come out in this raw, angry way.
that, i think, is what frustrates me so much is because the line “I can never give you children” distracts from amy’s actual trauma. i’ve always interpreted the way she’s feeling here as she felt violated once by being kidnapped at demon’s run, and then she comes home and it’s over, and she realizes they’ve now violated her in this whole other way. she says that being unable to have more kids is literally a result of what they did to her. and she cannot deal with that, so the only way she thinks to “fix” it is to self-isolate and let him go.
but this line just makes the whole thing about him and how much he wants kids and it makes me so angry like no. you got 95% of the way there and then you botched it at the last second. i really think if a woman had written this scene they could’ve threaded that needle and the show would’ve been stronger for it.