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Rom Com? Or Tragic Comedy?

I recently went through a pretty tough break-up. When I say recently I mean 3 months ago buuuutttt the wounds are healing... now. It was the kind of break-up that makes you ugly cry in your room for days. The worst kind of love; Romeo & Juliet, star-crossed lovers, family feud, minus the double-suicide ending. Our ending was movie material. We went out for tea, he gave it to me straight, lots of tears, runny noses, went for a drive, spread ourselves across a sidewalk and watched planes land near an airport. We hugged it out, more tears, a movie moment kiss, 'I love you', and one last look over the shoulder. My head hung over the steering wheel for a good 10 minutes and then I just about died.

Reason for the break-up you ask? His family hated me. "Hate you? Hate is too much of a strong word." WOW did they hate me, and they sure loved to make a point of it through social networking... and that one time they rang on my doorbell at 1:30am looking for him. My favourite tweet from his Mom being "my daily dig...my son's gf is a fb and twitter whore - Look at me , at what I've done, what I'm doing, I'm so cute and witty ...#$@! her !"  Word for word. No joke. I WISH I was making this up. Hence my blog name. And that's just one tweet from his Mom. So sad. And the absolute hilariousness of it all is that they've never ever met me. Not an invite over, not a thank you for the Christmas present, not a "Tell her we say hello!" My parents? They actually liked him. They've always said to me "As long as you are truly happy and you respect each other that's all that matters." It's funny how the older you get, the more you have to take into consideration the people you love. But it's how we show the people in our lives why the person you love is so valuable and significant.

I know it wasn't not the saddest thing in the world. There are many relationships that have ended or lasted with heart-breaking tragedies far worse than mine. I've had mentors and colleagues share their battles to be with the ones they love but society shamed them for it because of racism, sexual orientation, etc. For me, my situation was just really bizarre. We fought to keep our love alive for a year. And boy was it an ugly fight. We fought to make it work despite their opinions and in the end we lost and they won.  He says he needed to end it to save his relationship with his family and it took me a while to truly let that sink in. But ultimately, saving his family with such strong opinions and such negativity needs saving. I mean, we all do, even if we don't realize it. I guess I did too.

There is a lot that went down but I'm not bitter, at least not anymore. Who are we to judge love? -Movie Material 

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"I think you'd really like Moxies!"

- Guy trying to pick me up at the bar after I told him "I'm here on vacation."

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Hello? Is this thing on..?

So this is tumblr, eh? Alright, alright. Let me just preface by saying I am not a writer but I have a lot to say. I'm opinionated but in no way am I perfect. I am an artist (I felt that shutter/eye-roll) BUT I can assure you that everything I post are true to the fact, situations, beliefs, stories, and epiphanies, that have occured in my life. Believe me, I wish I were brilliant enough to make some of this up. But alas, it has to happen to someone, right?

Let's get this ball rolling, shall we?... ;)