#mspec questioning

[dragon-of-the-night]

Hi queer Tumblr. I don't usually like posting about my personal identity stuff on social media, because I'm a very private person who just doesn't like revealing much of this sort of thing to people, however, while I've been trying to just stick to the unlabelled... um, label, I'm still interested to know if there is actually a label that fits my romantic orientation (I'm leaving sexuality out of this for the moment, because I honestly have no idea where I am between ace and allo currently; I'm thinking probably greysexual, aceflux or low-libido allo, because, honestly, the idea of sex is not that interesting to me at the moment, but there is occasionally attraction there).

Is there a label for a female-identifying person who's always attracted to men more than any other gender, but who's attraction to women and other genders fluctuates between almost none to almost equally (but never quite equally - I still prefer men)? I experience attraction to women less frequently than to men and at a lower intensity, but I do experience attraction to more than one gender some/most of the time. I think. And the attraction I feel to certain women usually sticks around even when my female-attraction levels are low in general.

I've identified as heteroflexible for a while and have been looking into biromantic, bi-flux and abroromantic/sexual orientations, but none of them seem to feel right for long. Especially as I find it hard to differentiate or figure out what kind of attraction I feel towards people, be it romantic, sexual, platonic or aesthetic anyway. Especially being rather isolated at the moment, the only people I've been attracted to are fictional characters.

I'm just curious, really, because I will probably stick with unlabelled due to the freedom it gives with changing and evolving my orientations and not having to find different labels for that (and it also lowers the amount of identity crises I have, lol), but I would like to know if there is a label that exists for this, as it will help my understanding of myself and others who may feel similarly.

Thank you in advance 🙏🏳️‍🌈

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[succulents-in-space]

how did you know that you were pan and not bi?

Sort of a long explanation. I’d kinda fallen into the term bi because as far as I was aware that was the only term of its kind. After accepting that I liked girls and guys together (I knew zilch abt nonbinary identities at the time), I went ‘okay I guess I’m bi’ and started slowly making my way into LGBTQ communities online and I found the term pansexual. It kept coming up so I looked into it and something in my brain went ‘huh this kinda fits better’. Pansexual means attraction to all genders, bi means 2+ (which can inc. all). They’re quite similar and depending on the definition of bi then it might mean the same thing but pan just feels right. I came out as pan to my friends about 6 months after coming out as bi (officially out to most of my family as bi but I post pan stuff online so I’m not hiding it but I don’t want to explain it all to them).

Every now and then I think of going back to bi but that’s often when panphobes attack the pan positivity tags on here and bring me down but I always come back to it because bi doesn’t suit me right.

TL;DR Pansexual described attraction to people where gender didn’t really play a role at all. There’s a lot of overlap between mspec terms so a certain amount is just preference, and pansexual just feels right to me. Hope that helps, feel free to ask follow ups xx