#musexmuse

[dear-misandrist]

Do you think there is a problem with the LGBT community where gay men are given a free pass on being misogynists just because of their sexuality? If so, do you have any insight on why that is? Sometimes, I feel as if I have fueled this problem personally, unintentionally, with dumb generalizations of women to justify my preference for men.

Read my answer with the knowledge that I am a straight cis woman, who has friends in the LGBT community but is not a part of it.

I would like to start out with a story. In high school I worked at a fast food place. Two of my coworkers were gay men. Both of them talked a lot about how gross women's bodies were. They hated vaginas but would talk about them endlessly. The majority of gay men that I know personally (certainly not all) have been the same way.

I believe I reblogged something a while back about how some gay men will touch women inappropriately without seeing anything wrong with it because they are not interested sexually in women.  

[dear-misandrist]

You obviously seem like someone versed on the topic, what's the benefit of misandry or participating in it? From what I can tell, it's just giving misogynists a reason to justify themselves. It makes me concerned as both sides will become more and more polarized and irrational over time.

The benefit is that it is fun. I know I say this a lot but it is venting my frustrations. Like at work I can't tell some guy to his face that I want to kill all men so I say it on here.

The dudebros who will never learn will use it justify their hatred but those men who know it isn't real will either participate or will ignore it. I shouldn't have to change what I do because of a very hateful minority of men.