#mythandry

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Oceans 8, mild spoilers

So I just saw some site agreeing that Oceans is one of the “gayest” movies this year, and I am ALL on this BUT they then went and recast it for the sequel - which isn’t fucking needed - and it included replacing three of the women with men, and Mindy with the fucking whitest gay dude they could apparently find. 

If you take nothing away from this movie, get this:

No. Hims.

That’s it. Leave the women as they are. Add more women. Add more gay women. Add more lesbian subtext. Do not add more men. Why do you people always have to fucking do that shit?

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Thoughts about those weird het marriage custom things

You know, where the groom is ruining his life, and giving up everything and poor him being dragged to the altar? That kind of shit?

Here’s what I don’t get. Where the fuck is he getting off complaining about that at all? Shouldn’t the woman be the one all wait, wtf? Where am I coming from?

Even now, in this supposedly enlightened age, women still take on the majority of the household work. They’re expected to work, have kids, be the primary caregiver for the kids while the dad “babysits” sometimes. Equality in sharing chores is seen as like 80/20. Men have man caves and men’s nights and women are supposed to be delighted with a clean house and making a full home cooked meal after working 40 hours. It’s still assumed a woman will be sexually available whenever her husband wants, and if she’s not she’s cold and a prude who is a shrew holding out to get him to do her work around the house.

Why are men complaining and pretending like marriage is ruining their lives and trapping them when they’re gaining everything back that they expected/assumed their moms would do for years.

Woman are the one that society is shackling with the expectation of being parent, maid, housekeeper, cook, chauffeur, sexual toy, hostess... the list goes on and on, and yet men are the ones that play these games when they get married with poor children not old enough to read carrying signs that say “last chance to run, here she comes”, and whining about their freedom being taken and how they’re now shackled to a woman who society will damn for not being all of the above plus some while he hides in his man cave. 

WTF is just wrong with people?

And yes, I know. Not all men blah blah blah. This is about the societal expectations, and the image heterosexual couples present through these types of “silly” displays that are really demeaning and degrading to woman, and it’s images their nieces and daughters and cousins see that tell them it’s okay and cute to be degrade by a man so long as he says i love you. We should want more than that for ourselves, for men, for the next generations. This is just still so damn prevalent and it’s gross.

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Are you fucking kidding me?

I  was recently told by some woowoo new age wannabe hippy dude that it didn’t matter if I’m sapphic that if my partner or soul mate wasn’t a man, or very masculine, my magic would not work and that I would be belittling myself as a woman and the energy of my womb.

One, fuck you. Two, fucking die. Three, fuck off.

 This is the kind of shit that just drives me up a fucking wall. Stop telling women they need men in their lives. Stop pretending like all that shit about balance and masculine and feminine energy and shit has to be enforced on all. Especially when it’s being used to erase women loving women.

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Can we not...

Unacceptable: Men can’t be witches.

Acceptable: Men can be witches but I do not wish to practice with them/with male energy/this is not part of my practice.

Unacceptable: Men forcing themselves into a woman’s practice, mansplaining to her why this is wrong, and how she HAS to have male energy in her work and can’t do witchcraft without a man, figuratively or literally.

This has happened to me twice in the last few weeks.

This is NOT excluding transwomen. It says not working with men. Transwomen are NOT men. They are women. This is about cis men who insist they have a right to a woman’s time, training and knowledge.

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Right so... people suck

But seriously. If I make a post and end it with: if you come in here to be a dick, I will block you. That means don’t be a dick. So of your answer to this is: here’s my side of things, BUT IF YOU’RE JUST GOING TO BLOCK ME FOR DISAGREEING WITH YOU, WHATEVER BLOCK ME. 

Guess what dick? I blocked you. Not for disagreeing with me - even if I will not listen to that brilliant argument (It’s not mental illness, it’s taking meds for mental illness. Again, which more women do and AREN’T doing these things). It wasn’t that the point of the post was: call a terrorist a terrorist no matter their color, and you’re deflecting that.

It is because I will not play this game of belittling and baiting women into discourse so you can demean them and their point. So yeah, I blocked them. So here’s the thing.

IT’S YOUR SOCIAL MEDIA. BLOCK WHO YOU WANT. 

Don’t let people guilt you into not blocking them. Don’t let people harass you into thinking you are weak if you block people. It’s your space, and you can block whoever you want. You can block them because they post things they trigger you. You can block them because you hate a show they’re obsessed with. You can block them because they’re being a dick and you don’t want to put up with that.

Don’t let anyone tell you that blocking is wrong, or weak, or a cheap ploy, or that you don’t have a right to block them. It’s your space. Make it yours.

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I keep seeing these things saying: Until we fix the gun problem, we need to fix men. Well, fuck this. Women have been put in the position of fixing men for centuries and guess what? We're tired of it. We aren't their doctors. We're not their shrinks. We're not their moms. Men need to start doing the damn work and healing themselves, just like we've been doing for ourselves for centuries so that we can combat the damage they do.

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Welp this is my new favorite thing

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So... If mental illness causes white males (And only white males) to commit mass murder, than it only makes sense that they should be required to submit to regular testing, and if they do not submit to treatment then should have to report themselves to their community, work and schools for the safety of the community. Since apparently mental illness in white men apparently leads to mass killings, especially of minors. So want to talk about this or gun control?