#nb advice

[rruralroy]

What's some good voice training techniques to get a lower voice/access my chest voice? I've got that one voice app but I still cant reach down to my chest

[soft-sapphic-love]

I’m non-binary and I’ve been cycling through so many names and none of them feel right. So I’ve just been left feeling restless and unmoored. Do you have any advice?

I also struggled with my name for a while until I figured I liked my name as it was. But I've known people who go by no name as well.

~ Mod Chloe

[braindeadqueer]

how do i explain “boy days” to my seemingly lesbian partner as an afab non-binary person? I feel weird to ask or bring it up sometime bc i don’t want her to be grossed out or weirded out but i really do tend to prefer more masc terms of endearment but like….shes a lesbian

Maybe i’m thinking too hard about it but I just don’t wanna lose her over something so stupid

[lgbt-ask]

1: I've been having trouble with pronouns. So I'm a NB and I just cannot figure out pronouns for the life of me. I'm an AFAB and she/her are my default and being called a girl is most comfortable for me. But idw to be called a girl cos that's not who I am. He/him pronouns are OK I guess but it got ruined cos I keep getting misgendered by strangers, all assumed I was a guy. I might have grown comfortable around he/him if it was my friends calling me that but with strangers. It's a nooo.

2: As for they/them, it’s the most gender neutral but I just can’t get to used to it. I feel like it should be the one that I’m most comfortable using, but it’s not. Now I’m having doubts about my gender, coz if I follow my reasons for using he/him, I should dislike she/her except I keep finding myself subconsciously calling myself that. What should I do? Is it normal? Maybe coz it’s only been a few months since I called myself NB. Thanks for your help tho.

Hi there. I think this is normal. I’ve been out as trans for almost 6 years now and I still slip up and use female pronouns for myself sometimes. It took a while for me to get used to people using male pronouns for me as well. I would say play around with them. if you have a solid group of friends maybe say that you feel comfortable with x pronoun and want to use it to see how it makes you feel. Its a weird process trying to correct your own brain to accept the right pronouns. and its something that just takes some time. Its important to not be too hard on yourself and allow yourself the freedom to explore your identity in safe way. 

Several of the NB people I’m friends with are more comfortable being identified with male or female and present themselves that way. Since most people don’t assume someone is genderqueer and its hard to identify in public, I would explore your presentation as well. But if people gendering you as male didnt make you feel good at all, then maybe thats not a good fit. but like I said, its a journey and its completely okay and normal to explore it more. 

x.alex