Heyyy! I just came across your blog. The whole INFP, heteromantic asexual and random posts resonates with me so much!
I’m still confused about my sexuality tbh. Sometimes I feel like I’m asexual…but it’s hard to know for sure since asexuality itself is a spectrum. How did you figure out your asexuality?
hello!!! welcome to the craziness, hahahaha. im so glad my blog found you!! i definitely understand!! i initially just did a lot of poking around on tumblr and youtube bc i was curious as to what it meant in the first place. and then i noticed i related to lots of the feelings/experiences of other aces. i think what really pushed me into realizing was the general ace relationship with crushes (or should i say lack thereof?). i saw many aces talking about how they'd never really had crushes growing up, not even/especially not on celebrities. that is very true for me. one time, i convinced myself that I had a crush on someone, just because all my friends wanted to know who my crush was. i think i also noticed that some of my core principles surrounding dating are very different from my friends. for instance, i always knew that once i got to highschool, i wouldn't date. and i didn't. this wasn't because i wasn't interested in romance, it was because highschool dating is typically just for fun and can involve getting pregnant. part of that is religious for me, but another part is that i don't even want to get pregnant period. i do want children, but nothing about getting and being pregnant is attractive to me.
so, i think, for me, i realized from those things (and others) that sex isn't "repulsive" to me, but i have no desire for it.
hope that helps!! also, @ace-culture-is is a really great blog! you can read other ace experiences and that might help!! @questioning-aspec-culture-is and @questioningasexual too














