riffing off of existing worldbuilding and creating speculative gender schemata is my passion. like yes on a galaxy-wide institutional scale I think that misogyny and transphobia and homophobia exist in star wars. however. I think that those things can manifest differently depending on context. and also there are places that have insulated themselves from the bulk of their effects or that have local institutions that function differently.
all that is to say that I've been thinking about alderaan. because the list of things we know about gender and reproduction on alderaan is basically "women can and do inherit the monarchy," "in newcanon, men can and do take their wife's surname, including men in positions of power," and "adopted children can inherit their parents' estates without it being a point of contention." and all of that kind of implies a gender structure where the ability to reproduce does not need to be controlled and possessed, right? like alderaanian men as a class are not treating presumed-capable-of-being-pregnant women as their possessions, because the head of household is oftentimes (if not always) a woman, and not being personally capable of being pregnant is not necessarily a way to "fail" at womanhood, because you can still have a family that is legitimately seen as yours.
and this is kind of a double-edged sword, right? on the one hand, reproduction being in some ways decoupled from gender performance means that heterosexuality and cisgender-ity are also decoupled from gender performance - I think you can be gay or trans on alderaan without it threatening the normative order, because you can still Have A Family That Is Yours. additionally, the seeming lack of structural misogyny means that transmisogyny either doesn't exist or looks very different - if being a woman isn't seen as a bad or inferior thing and is in fact admirable, then you don't really need to punish people for wanting to be women.
but on the other hand. one must always ask where the adopted children are coming from. like in the wake of the clone wars, you do have war orphans, but in peacetime, people who are putting up children for adoption are often going to be those who lack the material resources to care for their children or who could not (for whatever reason) terminate the pregnancy. depending on the setting, one must ask why the former does not have those resources or why the latter does not have access to abortion. and considering that alderaan is a monarchy, I think the former concern is much more salient. AND it also allows us to ask questions like "how are the people putting their children up for adoption treated in a social context that prioritizes and valorizes having a family that is yours?"