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ok here is one of my main ones because it applies to me
what's the difference between pansexuality and omnisexuality? i keep reading about it everywhere and it seems that a lot of people say pansexuality is a form of being "gender blind" as in they don't see gender (or lack-of) in people whereas omnisexual people notice and recognize gender and gender identity (or lack of) and are just attracted to most or all types of genders and identities (or lack of) - is that true? because then i would identify as omnisexual because i feel it's dangerous not to recognize people's identities because we all need to know how important it is that there are SO many different kinds of people and i just don't understand if by "gender blind" people mean they don't see gender at ALL because that could be dangerous coming from cis people???
here are a few i am stumped on but like i said i read up on all of these there's just so many different opinions and i'd rather ask people i know but any friendly answers are welcome because i'd like to be as well-informed as possible on these and i'm gonna tag it also please excuse my messy typing
if someone is a cis person and they identify with a label such as gay, lesbian, bisexual, or even straight - does that ALWAYS encompass trans people as someone they can be attracted to? I'm not saying it shouldn't, because I believe it should. I'm just not sure because I haven't been educated well on it. For example, can a cis straight female be attracted to a trans man while still being considered cishet? I am completely unsure of this because of the sensitive genitalia issue because I also believe focusing on trans peoples' genitalia is harmful and regressive. However, I'm interested in if a person's identity that used to or is still sometimes applied to cis and heteronormative binary only encompasses people of the cis type to their identity (such as cis gay man + cis gay man or cis bi woman + cis woman or cis man). Is this wrong if a person feels they are only attracted to cis people that apply to their identity as a possible partner?
Can someone still identify as a certain sexuality, especially cis people, when they go outside of that definition? For example, if a cis lesbian woman has consensual sex with a cishet man, a cis gay man has consensual sex with a cishet woman, or a cishet woman has consensual sex with a cis woman of other identity (both of these instances i've heard of), are they still "lesbian" and "gay" and "straight"? does their orientation and identity automatically change? i think it's due to my lack of proper informing that i don't understand this and it feels close-minded and pissbaby-ish of me to say, but i don't understand how a homosexual cisperson or cishet person can have consensual sex or be sexually attracted to someone outside of their identity definition especially if they are very strong about their identity. i would very much like more information on this subject.
How do you know if someone is mislabeling themselves as someone in the lgbtqiapo+ community for attention or "shock factor"? this is a very, very hard subject for me because when i was in middle school and going through puberty, i first realized i was attracted to multiple genders. at that time due to lack of education or experience with these types of peoples, i was only aware of two genders: "man" and "woman", both including cis and trans people. however, i had a few friends (all cis females) who posed as "bisexual" for shock factor (they confided in me that they were doing so) and so cishet boys would pay attention to them out of our western culture that fetishizes cis women who are bi, pan, or omni, though usually cishet guys are so uncaring and just say shit like "bi girls are hot!!" because they are unaware no do they care of any other type of identity outside of fucked up porn culture that caters to their dehumanizing fetishes. ANYWAYS. this was very hard for me because out of the girls that mislabeled, they all ended up, after a few months, going back to identifying as cishet after NO experimentation (they confided with me this as well) and just labeling themselves "bisexual" for attention. i hid that i wasn't straight from everyone, even my friends that are lgbtqiapo+, until i was 16 for fear of abuse and persecution. at first i identified as bisexual until i learned about all the different kinds of gender identities and lack of because i knew for sure i am attracted to all of these kinds of people, then identified as queer though i didn't feel very comfortable with that one because i felt like i didn't fit into it, then as pansexual because it made me feel like i actually belonged in it and it applied to my personal feelings. unless someone personally confides in you that they're mislabeling to get attention, how can you even know? it seems impossible. it just sucks because i wish there were a way to call these people out because they make us all look like a joke, but it's so dehumanizing to ask people to validate their sexuality because i know if someone (aka some lousy buttfaced cishet man because they're the ones that usually do it) was skeptical of my sexuality and wanted some form of physical proof i would be beyond pissed off. because it's none of their damn business - and that's what it boils down to for all of us! it just makes me really upset when people mislabel to get attention because they make those of us who actually fall under these categories look like a punch line and something that's just like a looney tunes cartoon character; not to be taken seriously at all and treated as hoaxes and bogus fairy tales.
Is it okay to use the terms cis-AFAB, cis-AMAB, trans*, enby, and enbyfriend (dating someone non-binary)?
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i have a few more but they're not really popping up into my head at the moment.
I UNDERSTAND THIS POST IS PROBABLY PROBLEMATIC BEYOND ALL BELIEF AND WILL PISS A LOT OF PEOPLE OFF BUT I VERY MUCH WANT TO BE EDUCATED AND UNDERSTAND THE TRUTHS OF THESE AS MUCH AS POSSIBLE SO I CAN BE WELL-INFORMED IN THE FUTURE AND AM ACCEPTING ALL ANSWERS FROM LGBTQIAPO+ PEOPLE though like i said i would love to receive some info from my friends because i love them and like to hear what they have to say but all answers are welcome because i want to know what's real and what's just people bullshitting on things they think they know about when they don't!!!! (cough cough cishets)
thank you very much for everyone who helps me out to learn more about my friends and family in my community because the last thing i want to do is to be someone not het and harbor a bunch of idiotic false problematic regressive information that's either been drilled into my head or i've just heard a lot and don't know whether it's true or not
