#NOMUMS / #NOMOMS
From the personal level it's about need, nurturing - as with this side of #nodads, it's about the lack perceived by the child. The desire for total responsiveness to our wishes. Child as dictator, in fact. As such the mum has no power. So #Nomums cannot be about de-throning an authority, as it is with #nodads - she never had any authority, she was constructed as a pure facsimile of the need. It's got to be about us, about critiquing our reaction to women. Call out #Nomums on occasion where a woman is being expected to give give give, to caretake as a natural given, to take care of everyone else's needs and feelings and not being recognised as a person and agent of her own. Occasions where women are dehumanised in this way, reduced to serf-class. A call to grow up, or for a kind of decolonialism - because yes, this is about micro-fascisms and Empire - #NOMUMS.