#non-judgement

[wylansworkshop]

Yeah I've been home for less than 6 hours and immediately remember why I moved 2 hours away

[astroearthlink]

“Love is not divisive, it takes no side. It doesn't limit it self to man's ideals, or any particular religion. It doesn't judge. It embraces all, it accepts all. Love has no boundaries.”

[pselmo-blog]

Look at your feelings with an endless curiosity and an open mined. At first avoid labeling them. Just feel without pushing away or pulling close. Without amplifying or diminishing them. See them with a lack of expectation or judgement. See them as they are. Information on your current emotional and mental state. Information that can help you reach a better understanding of where you are in relation to where you want to be.

By acting on a feeling or emotion you are in turn bringing that emotion to life. You are allowing it to be manifested into the world. By simply observing the emotion without ties you can release it. Maybe at times you can pick up those you want to make real, but do so with intention and integrity. 

[arts-and-esoterics]

The Lady Of The Mirror: Psychic Tarot

The Lady Of The Mirror: Psychic Tarot

Keywords for The Lady of The Mirror are reflection and non-judgement

The lady of The Mirror was drawn today from the Wisdom of the Hidden Realms Oracle Cards by Colette Baron-Reid.  The lady of The Mirror is the 44th and last card of the deck.

In numerology the number 44 becomes 4 +4 = 8. The number 8 resonates with the vibrations of: Riches, wealth, abundance, prosperity, free-will, spiritual…

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[risingleosun-blog]

It’s OK. It’s OK.

Hey,

The past three days have been pretty bad days for you. And that’s okay. I know it can be frustrating to feel like crap. Especially when feeling like crap leads you to think you are crap. Acknowledge those feelings, and let them go. Because you’re ok. 

I know that for the past three days you’ve been staying mostly in bed, only getting out to forage for food - mostly junk. While holding the packages of processed food, you think to yourself, “well this will make me fat” or “this isn’t good for me”. But despite these thoughts, you proceed to eat them anyway, as if all your willpower has been drained. And that’s okay.

I know that this is far from your usual self or your peak. I know that you want to be better and you’re always striving to be better. And this frustrates you. You think that you can’t afford to be like this. You’re judging yourself because you think that you’re already so behind from everyone and that you aren’t reaching your goals as early as you want. You’re comparing yourself to others. Acknowledge that you’re doing this, and let it go. Come back to your present. Because really, you’re okay. 

For the past three days, your body and mind have been rebelling against you. And that’s okay. They’re telling you that it’s time to rest and regenerate. (Also you have your period, and that’s a bitch.) You have done a lot, and you deserve this time on the bed. You have free days, and you can use it. It’s really okay. 

I know that this is an uncomfortable time for you. Your mind is telling you that you’re not lovable. That you’re imperfect. That you’re incompetent. But that’s okay. It really is! All of these are just one way of interpreting yourself. Let these go and perhaps you can realize that there are other ways of seeing yourself. 

You’ve been through a lot of things and you’re still standing. You have risen above ranks, you have withstood some difficult times, you have helped people. You have done so much. And you can still get to where you need to go. And that’s okay. These three days (or four or seven) cannot define your years of resilience. So it’s okay. 

It’s okay.

[gingersegreti]

Dare to let go

The world of sex and sexuality is wrapped in qualifiers. 

What’s “appropriate?” What’s “inappropriate?”  

Everyone seems to want a say. Culture, family, religion, society pressure us to accept their view of right and wrong, good and bad.

Consider for a moment the change of seasons.

Look around at the natural world: leaves fall, trees remain evergreen; animals hibernate, migrate and stockpile for winter. 

Nature has no standard.

We don't question, accuse or pass judgment. We accept that each tree and animal knows the right thing to do. 

Why not apply this acceptance and non- judgment to ourselves, to our partners, to society?

Stop thinking of sex in terms of “should.”

Consensual sex between willing adults is no one else’s business. How you would like to be, in your play space, with your partner - is between you and your partner.

The only responsibility you have is to keep your play safe, sane and consensual. This doesn’t mean no kink, like humiliation, or other non-traditional play. Being respectful is about respecting your partner’s wishes. If your partner desires to be humiliated, respect that. Maintain a safe space and only engage in activity in a manner consistent to what you and your partner agree to.

As children, we play. We dress-up. We use our imagination and creativity to have fun. We aren’t limited by our bodies, our gender, time, space.  You can be wherever your mind takes you.

Enjoy that freedom and creativity today! 

It’s time to let go of preconceived notions that are holding you back.  Forget the “should have”, “could have,” and “would haves.”   

It’s time to be, to accept you for who you are, and who you love, and how you get off.

Let go of who you think you should be and allow yourself to enjoy what you enjoy. 

Be You.

Check out more tips and tricks to be sexcessful. Romance more your speed? Find out how a lap dance can lead to a late morning start.

[creative-journey]

10 lessons from 100 days of meditation

Yesterday, I meditated for the 100th consecutive day. Much of that has been guided programs through the calm.com app, which has been enormously helpful to explain the process to me. I started with the basic 7 days of calm program, followed by guided meditations for creativity, focus, sleep, kindness, anxiety release, gratitude and more. Here is what I have learned so far.

If you think you can’t meditate, you probably need it more

All of humanity’s problems stem from man’s inability to sit quietly in a room alone. — Blaise Pascal

People who are new to meditation think they can’t meditate because they can’t sit still and quiet their brain. I was like that too. My job is in social media — so I’m constantly connected and reaching for my phone and multitasking and going down my to-do list and thinking a zillion thoughts. But using that frenzied lifestyle for an excuse is like saying “I can’t eat healthy because I only eat junk food.”

You get better

Meditation is training your brain to slow down, be quiet and be aware. When you start, you’re going to suck at that because that’s not how our days are structured. It’s going to be messy and difficult. But research shows that your brain waves actually change and deepen from meditation. I started with 1 minute of meditation, and it was hard. I now sometimes do 20 or 25 minutes of meditation, and can feel like it passes faster than when I first started with 60 seconds. Like any other skill, you get better with practice.

When you fail you can start over

Do not fear mistakes. There are none. — Miles Davis

Last summer I set a goal for myself to meditate for 30 days straight. I made it to about 23 days before I missed a day. This may seem insignificant, but I was really discouraged. I was so close to my goal, and then had to start from the beginning. More than 3 weeks, down the drain! But there’s this simple phrase in meditation that got me back on track: “Begin again.” When you catch your mind wandering, that’s perfectly normal. It’s to be expected. No one’s perfect. Just… begin again.

Happiness is fleeting

Our nation is founded on “the pursuit of happiness.” But here’s a radical notion — stop trying to pursue happiness. Or at least stop trying so hard that it makes you miserable. You may be happy because it’s Friday or you have a vacation coming up or you get a promotion. But then you quickly return to normalcy. Happiness, like any emotion, is a temporary state. Recognizing this doesn’t make you less happy. Rather, it helps you stay in the moment and enjoy the wave, rather than trying desperately to catch the next wave of happiness.

Sadness, stress and fear are also fleeting

The flip side of knowing that happiness is fleeting is knowing that unpleasant emotions won’t last, either. I’ve been very stressed, busy and anxious at times in the last 100 days. But having a regular practice of meditation has helped me gain perspective that it’s OK not to be OK. That perspective has actually reduced my stress. There’s a saying that helps: “If you let go a little you a will have a little peace; if you let go a lot you will have a lot of peace; if you let go completely you will have complete peace. ”

You have time to meditate

The time to relax is when you don’t have time for it. — Sydney J. Harris

I get it, you’re busy. We’re all busy. I work full time, take grad school classes, teach a college course, try to be attentive to my wife and two kids, do consulting and freelance writing, and a few other things. But I can find 5 minutes in the morning or 10 minutes before bed or 15 minutes at lunch. I’ve meditated on the living room couch, a chapel, in bed and at my desk. (It doesn’t have to be on a mountaintop.) Some days it may only be 5 minutes or even 3. But the days I feel I’m most productive, creative, present and effective — instead of just spinning my wheels — are the days I can meditate at least 10 minutes twice a day.

Meditation is selfish

Am I being selfish if I take time for myself? Yes, I totally am. I’m OK with that. Meditation is selfish in that way that sleeping, eating or showering is selfish. You simply have to carve out time to take care of yourself. Once you do take some time to meditate, you realize how essential this space is and how you starve yourself if you don’t take regular “non-doing” time.

Meditation is the opposite of selfish

Meditation is also not about you. It’s about gaining perspective, getting outside your head and seeing your place in the universe, in all its significant and insignificant glory. We all have an internal monologue that can control us during the day. Often that monologue is about me, me, me. “I have to do better. I should have done that. I wish that I, I, I….” When you meditate, you can start to let go of that selfish ego. You can start to think about other people’s needs, see things from other perspectives, and hopefully become a bit more compassionate and understanding.

External factors affect your mood more than you realize

One of the mantras I learned through meditation is “You are more than your thoughts.” We let our thoughts pull our emotions throughout the day, and we usually don’t even realize it. Why do you feel the way you do right now? Is it because of a fight you had this morning? Your long to-do list? The weather? Your body language? Tension in your muscles? How you are breathing? Meditation helps put you in touch with what’s causing your thoughts and feelings. And once you can name them, you can do something about them — or just let them go.

I know nothing

Who are you, oh God, and who am I? — Saint Francis of Assisi

But seriously, who am I kidding? I know nothing, and neither do you. If 100 days of meditation has taught me one thing, it’s that I have a lot to learn. We’re all just comparing notes. As the Zen proverb says: To understand nothing takes time. Once you realize that, you can experience, enjoy and learn from the journey a little more deeply.

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