i am so tired of some beings (especially on TikTok) trying to separate petplay from nonhuman spaces,
for me it's obvious that if you're an animal you're gonna act like one while having intercourse.
I'm not saying disliking it if someone's uncomfortable with sexual things, because i totally understand that and i respect it,
but I'm talking about beings forcefully trying to erase it from nonhuman spaces, wasn't it always present in our community?
i love expressing my nonhumanity sexually, it makes me feel so euphoric, like I'm being myself fully
and saying "therians can't be sexual" (actually saw an ADULT saying that) is just wrong, my sexuality is directly connected to my nonhumanity! and I'm sure that's the case for many other creatures!
For the 100th time, wolf (2021) is not exaggerated, it simply does not reflect your personal experiences. Stop sanitizing a community that society will never fully accept regardless.
I see you've heard about the recent fae and dragon trying to stir up all community discourse then?
I'd say they succeeded since so many beings got riled up.
I know terms like 'therian' and 'otherkin' are never going to encompass all nonhuman or beyond-human or slightly-to-the-left-of-human experiences that make up the world but I don't think having a particular experiences gives anybody the rights to say who is really their species and who is just a human who really wants to not be human. Nor to try and create and maintain elitism about which kinds of experiences are real and genuine and therefore make the person their species or identity and which don't despite the fact that all these 'not really your species' people genuinely identify as, which is the only thing which separates nonhumans and fictional humans from humans of this world who are kinning for fun i.e. taking on a nonhuman identity or fictional human identity for fun. At that point, where you're just saying x-identities-aren't-real, it doesn't matter which specific community term you use or are trying to purify especially when most of us use large terms like alterhuman and nonhuman as well.
If you live your life being elite, you will always come across people you don't believe, whilst expecting everyone to believe you - which is ironic. There is nothing wrong with believing somebody at face value and letting them explore and grow in a safe environment just because in the past you were forced to grow by the negative reinforcement of constant backlash and suspicion of you. Some people don't grow from that. Some people just go back to faking human. Why would you wish that on anyone. Don't give me any survival of the fittest if it really meant that much to them then they would do this rhetoric either. (This is aimed at those people not You you Anon).
Like I do feel a little sorry that that dragon isn't getting the same feelings from the community as before. That they've lost the deep sense of spirituality that used to be here when nonhumans cowered in tiny corners and many never discovered the parts of them which felt different at all. That they no longer feel quite so special or unique because there's too many of us to get that little rush of happy hormones from meeting somebody like you with a rare identity. But their arguments made me laugh because a) they're actually talking about how kin for fun has ruined the community and all those people you're against agree because their fictional identities run more than just skin deep, and b) they're a dragon.
They identify as a dragon from a made-up/mythical/fictional place that is only real to them, through their particular belief system, and in the beliefs of those who validate or agree with them. They're no different, really, to somebody who identifies as a specific character from a piece of media that happens to be fictional here but that is absolutely not fictional to them and/or in their multiverse theory(not that only this theory is valid it's just most like how this dragon thinks).
And what's funnier is that elitists would absolutely count this person crying for gatekeeping as out of the community and not really a dragon 'because that's impossible' too, as I know there's still those out there who ONLY validate earthly animals proven to exist upon this Earth here and now and dragons are not one of those creatures. I think they're just nostalgic and misinformed and should probably listen to even half of what is being said to them. If they want to identify as dragon spirit instead of dragonkin they're free to without throwing other identities under the bus and sparking tempers amongst beings way too sick of being invalidated when they live their lives as x or y very seriously every day.
About the fae person...yeah, again, I just found it funny that they think they're one of the only real fae because they can 'talk to their court in the astral realm' and 'can help people get there via x and y techniques' when like...if you don't believe in stuff like that, it doesn't leave any impact at all. It did not make me think of them as more legit because I personally don't believe that it's possible to do what they claim, but they think it is and that's fine. What's
not fine is them then saying that any fae who doesn't do this isn't really fae then, and also claiming that every fae court hates faekin and other such fae-identifiers who don't have this one beings specific beliefs. Anything which promotes such hate and elitism of others you cannot possibly know the inner workings of just is not going to fly.
The problem with elitist attitudes in communities like this is that it goes beyond the mild gatekeeping needed to maintain the integrity of a term (e.g. KFFs are NOT kin) and into pushing those who do belong out because they don't meet your personal expectations. In the same way, there will always be somebody who doesn't think you are legit so nobody is untouchable. It's a rotten stupid circle of invalidation that nobody escapes from.
The mythical animal doesn't think non-spiritual versions of it are real, the earthly extinct animal doesn't think the mythical animal is real, the nonhuman humanoid doesn't think the earthly extinct animal is real, the earthly living animal doesn't think the nonhuman humanoid is real, the humans don't think the earthly living animal is real and on and on and on.
Tell me, when nobody is honest about their nonhuman feelings any more out of fear of being rejected, who will these elitists fight? Who will they turn to for community, comfort and sharing of being not a human? Their community will forever be small and hostile, full of suspicions and harsh treatments so long as they cannot accept that their are 'fictional' entities living in human bodies on this world, which happened to create a piece of media similar to or identical to their lives and also members of their own species who do not interact with their specieshood in the same way they do.
