Groom Persona Chart - 4th House
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This is where these readings get so interesting because this is where it starts referencing me and our married life together. The fourth house is the house of home, parents (in this case us and maybe how he was raised), living situation and our early life together - even us being roommates while dating could be described from this house.
I will be speaking about sex in this post so this is the warning! No minors reading please!
Without further ado, let's begin!
4th house in Taurus
Lovely placement especially in comparison to my natal Aries 4th house, just a lovely change of pace personally.
Home environment: I think he may be really nitpicky about the environment, Taurus is generally a lazier sign, so I don't think he is nitpicky about mess more about the aesthetics of things. I think he is a solid anchor for both future kids and me, in this sign. I am wondering if he was raised in a stubborn environment and ways of thinking may be a little stifled. He seems more open to art, fashion etc but may been pushed into traditional business route just with the rest of the chart. He has either moved very little himself growing up or he wants to avoid moving too much. He plays value on establishing roots and consistency in our home life. I think he is a really great cook as well. He making us do family photoshoots and those photos are up in his office as we speak lmao.
Does your mother know: You can't speak about the 4th house and not address our mothers. This is his chart so this is my mother-in-law lol, she may prefer material things over getting really deep. I think she really doted on him; she is maybe really proud of creating a handsome son (scary hours). I think his mom may have been really intense and overbearing with him a little. She may have been really stubborn and pushy struggling to understand his independence. She may try and emotionally manipulate him with money which is why he places a lot of value on not asking his family for help. I think she truly expected him to live up to that pedestal of perfection. He may have grown up in abundance. He is his mother's sense of emotional security.
Emotional Temperament: I think he is really patient with his moods despite being an enthusiastic communicator. He prefers the home space to be steady emotionally.
4th house ruler in the 6th house
Note - I really love when these houses overlap even in synastry fun. I think it makes for a wonderfully practical relationship but anyway let's begin!
My Grooms (lol) 4th house ruler Taurus is Venus which falls into his 6th house of Cancer. Hello, Mister acts of service husband.
This man has a routine and he loves it. I think he encourages the whole family to look after their health, eat well and work hard steadily lmao. I think he enjoys adding structure to everyone in the household's day and he is used to it. Again, mommy issues showing up lmao. He may have had to take on responsibility emotionally since he was a child and he is now just used to it.
He has to feel emotionally connected to what he is doing. He loves when things have meaning for him. He enjoys feeling like the family he created is working as a team towards one goal. He definitely makes both me and future kids feel really supported and heard. I don't want to play; we may end up owning businesses together because this giving we work together in some regard as 6th house is also coworkers. I think our kids may remember him as a dad that really supported their dreams through action and not just encouragement. He will be a devoted father.
Lilith at 16 degrees in Taurus
I hate Lilith in a man's chart lmao. I will be incredibly frank with what I see.
Lilith can represent a woman who could be a man's undoing in the Groom Persona Chart, this can be an affair partner type (not predicting an affair just a warning of the kind of woman it could be), his sexual desires that are really hidden, or it can even be me and what turns him on. Lilith is really nuanced because it can represent the woman in his life, who I may know now as we are "married" in the Groom Persona Chart. Lilith herself is an asteroid, so she is more circumstantial than a major player, but men are scary and this asteroid always scares me where they are concerned lmao.
Let's not fear monger anymore and speak about what we see!
Potential Affair (God willing, not happening): I think woman may want him or target the marriage or home because it seems too peaceful. I think they present chaos to him and that may be tempting if the home is very practical. This is also just very beautiful woman to be honest. If he feels rejected by me, he could cheat just to get comfort and validation as well.
*something really random about this placement that I like as it speaks against cheating - it is incredibly family and stability focus so attraction isn't enough for him to really give away stability. The fourth house is ruled by cancer and 16 degrees is a Cancerian degree, I don't think he could cheat simply what it would do to his family if nothing else. He is incredibly driven to keep a family unit as whole.
Hidden Sexual desires: This is really weird of me to say but I am wondering if sex or anything related to sex was something he may have been shamed for in his youth. I feel like even asking about sex, or thoughts he was having (wet dreams) may have been ridiculed or shamed/presented as wrong. I think that pornography may have also been shamed (good !!) but not because of any reason other than sex being either immoral or disgusting. I wonder if woman were slut shamed in the home and that's why he struggles with woman who are really feminine and happy with their bodies. He is also attracted to boobs lmao, like everything that is really feminine to him gets him going lol. I see this as like skirts, dresses, tits out, bikinis - he likes the female form. He wants to see me strip lmao - not in the leo way where the performance gets them. It's the visual sensory of watching fabric fall etc etc.
Me (i really hope it's me lmao): jealous fits if he thinks I am cheating. I see a very paranoid partner, who is scared of losing what is "his". I think he really is prone to picky fits just to see if I am still interested. He is also very sensory focused during sex, so every sense has to be activated. Ok not to get crazy in the chat but Taurus rules the neck so hickeys, biting, choking are all standard for him. He is very focal as well - this is dirty talk, moaning and groaning as well. Also, very long foreplay, he can lowkey make out for hours. He want's commitment quickly where sex is concerned. Sex for him turns into dating and he is very possessive sexually. Smaller wedding as well, this is a private lilith commitment feels sacred and private to them.
Women he introduces me to: He may have slept with them :)! He has likely slept with his friends - he likes to have very beautiful stunning woman as friends and tried to see if they were sexually compatible. Sex leads to dating for this Lilith more often than not. May even be friends with his ex's. I hate this.
16 degrees...mhmmm: again, the mommy issues are popping up, i think he is probably loyal and very traditional. He likely is religious. He may have a clear view on how a family should be run.
Strengths he can gain from Lilith: This placement can give him loads of stability. He may be able to create art a lot easier than most. He has a really nice voice, I think people may mistake him for flirting quite often because he is very charismatic. Taurus rules the body, so he likely is in very good shape.
What he may be shamed over: People may try and make emasculate him for feeling comfortable with things that are deemed feminine. They may shame him for his aesthetic or caring about his appearance. I wonder if he was bullied or called gay (which isn't a bad thing whatsoever - I just am referencing when it may have been used as an insult). His mother may have disliked woman he brought around or him lounging about. Shame surrounding eating patterns here as well. May have been bullied / called "spoiled".
North Node at 28 degrees in Taurus
Big daddy energy (imagine me literally putting my hair up rn)
Marriage Lesson: His journey as a husband is about finding a way to earn financial security. The focus in this lifetime is more on becoming self-reliant than anything else and in the 4th house - this is regarding providing as a man. I think he has a really strong anchor in him and he has an innate trust that he will survive make it work. This man yearns to be a father and husband - literally feels that it is his purpose. He has values and a code of conduct he wishes to live his marital life by.
28 degrees sexier: I love 28 degrees in astrology, if you have this on any personal planets - I am jealous girl right now! This man is protective, nurturing, compassionate, creative - ugh I want him now.
Aspects you may care to know about:
north node trine to moon - He finds trusting his instincts to be very natural to him.
north node square to uranus - he may have obstacles that force growth on his path. He is carving out a new way of being in comparison to his family. He may be perceived as a rebel.
lilith sextile to sun - he has a really strong presence. I feel like woman notice him very quickly. It probably makes that ego of his HUGE.
lilith sextile to mercury - i feel like he speaks without thinking or fear, rather. He is really headstrong in his opinions as well. He actually loves sexting and dirty talk, anticipation is just as fun as the act. He thinks about sex more than I will ever know lmao.
lilith square pluto - I think he is gossiped about a lot. Also possibly a quick temper if he finds people disrespectful towards his family.
lilith trine chiron : ironically having sex, and embracing sex actually can heal those childhood wounds regarding being shamed for his desires and thoughts.
