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Reminders for the holiday season:

The only “Bad food” is food you don’t like or food you’re allergic to

All food is guilt free because food has no morality

Eat when you’re hungry, don’t when you’re not no matter how much or little it takes to be full

You know your body better than any judgmental relatives

Healthy doesn’t have a “Look”

Important reminders!

[this-is-fatphobia]

hey, is this blog inactive, on hiatus, or out of asks?

Sorry about the delay in answering this. I have been meaning to update, but my life has gotten busy. I think considering the blog "on hiatus" until I get the inbox cleared and everything queued up may be the correct way to view it.

I have a lot of asks and life offline has gotten unexpectedly very busy, and I'm sorry for the delay in posts.

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How can someone who has not experienced fatphobia help anyone struggling with body image and weight issues?

If this person doesn't have an eating disorder that could be triggered by it, point out things you like. Myself and others have found that one of the most healing things is to simply be complimented.

Some of my biggest insecurities are things I love about myself now because someone I trusted complimented those traits. You have to be very careful with compliments, though. Don't give backhanded compliments, and don't insist or argue with them if they try to deny it. Just tell them how it is, and don't sit in the moment too long or it may make them uncomfortable.

If someone is struggling with their body image due to an eating disorder, I would suggest to only make comments about their looks if they have expressly told you that they aren't triggered by that. Otherwise, compliment other things about them. Makeup, style, mannerisms, and such.

There will never be a perfect way to help someone with these issues. I think if you're close enough to someone, you can have a gentle conversation with them about it. But you have to respect boundaries when it comes to these topics, and be careful.

I hope this helps.

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This is knee surgery anon and this is NOT a fatphobia submission but seeing you tag the post with this is ableism made me really emotional and I almost cried (positive) because I always felt like/was told that I don't have it 'bad enough' to call myself disabled or anything like that

I don't know man I guess having someone else kinda acknowledge it made me feel validated thank you

You're welcome. You deserve to feel seen and heard, and I'm glad I could privide that. Seriously, if there's anything I want my followers to know, it's that they aren't alone.

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im the anon that was nervous about their doctor offering ozempic in response to my bulimia

she didn't! she instead checked in and asked if i was still doing follow-ups w my nutritionist and if it was helping

I'm happy to hear this!

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Genuine question: Is it fatphobia if I relate to eating disorder posts as someone who is underweight?

I don't think so, no, though this question is quite vague.

Anyone, of any size, can have an eating disorder. If you relate to someone with, say, binge eating disorder, that doesn't make it wrong just because they may be bigger than you.

If you do find yourself relating to posts about eating disorders, I recommend you seek help and support from professionals. Try to build a healthier relationship with food, and not a restrictive or guilt association with it. And reach out to someone if you find yourself getting a little too deep in a spiral.

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The queue ran dry once more because I have come down with covid. I managed to avoid it for years, but it finally got me. Not to worry, I'll be filling the queue again soon!

[this-is-fatphobia]

This isn't fatphobia but tysm for what you do!

Thank you! It's not easy. I've gotten some incredibly heavy asks since starting this blog, and my inbox is always overflowing, but it means a lot to hear people are thankful!