#not arospec

[our-arospec-experience]

I was reading about platonic relationships and then woe is me i have been wrong the entire time. I thought that platonic relationships equate friendship.

Reading a bit more i was horrified to find out that it does not say that platonic relationships are exclusively platonic. It can become romantic, or can involve sex which i really DO NOT want, and is supposedly "more than friendship". The irony.

So I don't know. Can I know more about the bounds of what platonic should mean because I've been saying "I love my homies platonically" all the time and I might have been using the term wrong and may cause misunderstandings here and there. I'm considering to use the term aplatonic for myself too, however I don't know which spaces i could start on to start learning about aplatonic orientations.

Thank you🙇

I’m not sure. I only really know aromantic stuff. I can give you these definitions:

definition platonic:

“(of love or friendship) intimate and affectionate but not sexual”

definition platonic attraction:

“Platonic Attraction is a form of attraction that is defined as the desire to form a platonic relationship (also called a friendship) with a specific individual”

Otherwise maybe ask @our-aplatonic-experience?

[our-arospec-experience]

Hello hi you're apl right? Do you know if it counts as aplspec if one's capacity for friendshippy feelings seems diminished after one's old friend group blew up?! Is there a word for that?? It's been a year and I've only actively wanted to hang out with my best friend since. I only really hang out with my other friends if we happen to be in the same space at the same time and I don't feel the urge to message them to ask to hang out. Is this a thing?? Idek if it's maybe just bc I feel 0 need to mask around my best friend so there's no drain on my social battery, maybe it's just the 'tism!? Help???

Oh and happy apl visibility day

I am going to have to redirect you to @our-aplatonic-experience, they know far more than I do :)

[our-arospec-experience]

do you know if there is any sort of acespec and asexual experience blog?

there is @our-asexual-experience and @our-ace-experience :)

[aro-but-not-ace]

Hows life been treating you recently?

Let me tell you, it’s been extremely up and down. I don’t even know where to begin. Things have been just absolutely crazy and that’s part of why I haven’t been active on here as much. I’m figuring out a lot of things about myself and my past, along with working full time now (which is new for me because I was in school up until March of this year). It’s mentally draining to say the least, but I think everything will add up and make sense in the long run. Thanks for asking!! :)