#not aro

[actuallysafe-for-aro]

Hey yall! I know this is off topic for this blog, but i would like to share my artfight account!

https://artfight.net/~FrickDotNet

If anyone would like to send me an attack I would be super appreciative ^.^

I have mostly anthro object characters / object heads and some furry characters as well as some regular humans

[aro-culture-is]

fyi folks: mods are on vacation, if the queue is out or runs out, sorry! we'll get to it when we're back. we're enjoying seeing friends for the first time since... largely august of last year.

[aro-culture-is]

hey folks, there's a rise in rule violations right now.

reminder to please read the rules before submitting. the most common rule violation right now is not following the "aro culture is" format. i cannot edit your ask. if you submitted with an account, i will privately answer it back to you with applicable rules for re-submission.

the second most common in the ask box lately has been the use of the phrases "opposite gender/sex". i understand these are common phrases. there are not two, distinct, opposing genders or sexes, however. nonbinary and intersex people not only exist, but are a lot more common than you might realize. you can learn to address what is happening more accurately when you stop using an outdated framework.

gee, mods, but what do I say to replace that? well, do you mean when you say those phrases? is the problem that someone thinks that men and women cannot be friends? say that! is someone insisting that a person afab must be boy-crazy because they have a friend amab? say that! there's no point to learning "instead of this... say this..." if you aren't changing how you think about the topic, imho. the real goal is, "instead of this... ask yourself where that phrase came from, and if you are respecting your own beliefs when you use it. if you are not, consider why and change that."

(see also: using AAVE as "trendy" words while not supporting Black creators who popularized those terms. using mental health conditions as derogatory terms while proudly calling yourself neurodivergent or neurospicy.)

mini glossary for some terms you may not be familiar with:

AAVE: African American Vernacular English. This is a dialect of English spoken by Black Americans and some Black Canadians, and has its own grammatical rules, words, and pronunciations that differ from American or British English. Many popular "internet speak" words and phrases originate directly from AAVE, and gain a different meaning that AAVE users do not wish for it to have. Woke is a major example.

AFAB: assigned female at birth. This is a descriptor, and is not itself a noun. AFABs is not a correct use. People AFAB is. This does not mean that individual will not later learn they are intersex, and does not mean that they all followed expected female development.

AMAB: assigned male at birth. This is a descriptor, and is not itself a noun. AMABs is not a correct use. People AMAB is. This does not mean that individual will not later learn they are intersex, and does not mean that they all followed expected male development.

[just-aro]

y'all. i have had the wildest fucking day at work.

we had a small fire that was contained, and it wasn't bad enough that they would call the local firefighters (volunteers), but it was enough that they evac'd the building. we were supposed to have a fire drill today, so at one point, the guy in charge of our location pulled up with ice cream for a reward from corporate for 90%+ completion of a survey and tried to walk inside with it.

we went back to work... for like, at most an hour.

tornado warning! shelter in your muster locations! except the power went out because our power grid sucks, and also our building has no cell signal. so we stayed there, where the emergency lights are, until we were 100% sure the inclement weather had ended. like an hour and a half total.

also me and one other person had cell signal in our corner of the room with our carrier, but no one else... until suddenly we didn't. judging by the ride home, I suspect a local cell tower got struck by lightning, damaged by winds or hail, or some other bullshit.

the ice cream is in the freezers. without power. we can't do anything without power. let's eat the ice cream before it melts ig. me and a group elect to sit at our little outdoor tables, where there is light.

we are told to stay because the power should come back on any minute. the people who installed our backup generators this year are being called. they are patiently explaining that we bought undersized ones for our needs so they wouldn't have us fully back anyways, and the back and forth power surges probably confused them. a tech will come soon. the techs came. nothing changed.

we are told if we leave before they call the day, it will be out of our PTO. "when will they call it?" we ask the guys in charge. "hey, we're paying you to sit here!" they respond. "if you need to, it would be great if you came in on the weekend or did overtime to help us stay on target." we stare back silently. he nods awkwardly and disappears back into the dark building.

4.75 hours after losing power, we are told that when it hits 5 hours we can just leave. at the five hour mark, we all abruptly stop talking, gather our shit, and walk out.

i have no cell signal on my drive home. i arrive to my apartment, which has had power for two hours, and sits less than a ten minute drive from my workplace.

what the hell has my day been.

[aro-culture-is]

not a thing but one of the mods has the same name as me yay my name is also rust

:D our system works in metallurgical engineering, so a metallurgical name felt fitting. fe also uses fe/fer pronouns because nerdieness is fun

[aro-culture-is]

reminder to folks: read the submission rules. start your submissions with some variant of "aro culture is" or it will be deleted.

[aro-culture-is]

what's BLM mean on ur pfp

black lives matter