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28, 48, 57

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28. Is there anything you want to say to someone?hmm. yeah. there is a person who means a lot to me but i haven't spoken to her in person for ages. and i believe there's a pretty good reason and i'm not the only one to blame on that. so i'd really like to call her out on neglecting our friendship. i can't really be the only one who tries to keep it alive. (also i'm a little bitter about this all. ugh. i hate even thinking about it)

48. What was your worst experience on drugs or alcohol?i haven't done drugs before, and my experience with alcohol wasn't really that bad (i.e. i haven't been in a serious condition because of that) but i drank last new year's eve way too much and that one time ruined alcohol for me for now lol

57. If you could go back in time, which time period would you visit?considering that pretty much anything before the 20th century wasn't that sanitary (and i'm fussy) i'm a bit hesitant to decide. :D i love the roaring twenties because ah, amazing fashion and music, but my favourite period would be definitely romanticism, but probably only the romanticized version of romanticism lmaooo. also maybe the 60s or 70s, despite all the racism and sexism, because i just love the art and music created in that time.

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10, 20, 30, 40, 60?

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10. What are you craving right now?closeness. i feel like i haven't been very close to people much lately. i have been hugely focusing on university stuff and i haven't seen my closest friends in a while. so yeah, that'd be something i'd really want right now.

20. Have you ever met a celebrity?well, i met band members! blake from versaemerge, and jack from all time low. also the whole band of imagine dragons. and i met german actor who plays in a german tv show! he actually goes to the same university as me, so that's kinda cool.

30. Do you rent movies often?not as much as i used to before. i simply don't have much time for movies and stuff :/ if i'm watching something it's tv shows. but yeah, i used to love rent movies particularly those i haven't known before, and especially horror movies. maaan i miss that

40. If you were paid 1 million dollars to spend the night in a supposed haunted house, would you do it?oh my god that's tough. well, if they guarantee me that i won't die in there and that no evil spirit will possess me, i'll probaly do it. i mean, a night is like. eight hours, at maximum ten, that'll be totally worth it (lol i sound so bold i'd probably run out frightened after like half an hour lmao)

60. If you could choose the sex of your unborn child, would you want to?i have thought about that a lot, but i'd love to have a boy at first, and then a girl because it was a dream of mine to have a big brother. but ofc if i ever have children i don't really care what sex it will (or chooses to) be, i will love it regardless :-)

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I, U, V, 4

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I: just answered that!

U: Are you currently in a relationship? If yes, for how long? If no, how long have you been single?

no i'm not in a relationship. nor have i been before. i didn't quite work out the times it could have worked out and that's probably because i shy away easily from this stuff. but two times i actually thought about telling a person how i felt about him but of course i didn't. i'm a hopeless case lmao.

V: Do you think people who have dated can stay friends?

i think that really depends on how long those people were in a relationship, and how serious it was, how it ended, and also on these people themselves. if it was a brief relationship, i don't think there would be many problems on going back to old habits. if it was more serious, i don't think you can go seperate ways because you'd probably still care about the other person and can't easily switch that off. and how it ended - well if it was a bad ending, i don't think you can go back being friends that easily, especially if someone is hurt or made a huge mistake. it's about forgiveness then. moreover, it depends on the people. if one mourns the relationship and still loves the other still, then a little distance would probably better. i guess eventually a former couple can become friends after a while, if they have both moved on with their lives. but immediately? i have seen little cases where that worked successfully, but that doesn't mean that you can't try.

4: answered this one before too! (:

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H, I, P & J?

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H: Would you date someone who's know for cheating, if yes why?

well if it's a frequent cheater, then i'd probably be dumb getting into a relationship with him. that's basically 'i knew you were trouble but i thought you'd be different this time'. how many times did this work out with people? yeah. it's a different story, i think, if he has cheated on his girlfriend once - i'd like to hear why, but even if i'm ready to get together with this person, i'd probably be insecure about this whole thing because i'd be afraid that he might do that to me too. so i can only theorize here and only see if i'm ever in this situation like this, how i would handle that.

I: What's the most important part of a relationship?

trust and honesty - that comes from communication. people in a relationship have to talk and if someone is hiding something from the other, or even lies about it, i find it doubtful that his relationship will last long. of course you can screw up but then you'd have to be honest about this. maybe it can be worked out. but if you don't trust your partner to be supportive, or at least trying to understand you, then why are you in this relationship at all? either you're in with your whole heart or you're not in it at all. even if it's not about making mistakes. if you're insecure about something, maybe your girl/boyfriend meeting another boy/girl and you don't like it, please, TALK to your partner about it. my best friend had these problems and she was afraid of telling her boyfriend that because he "might be angry with her". (thankfully he wasn't - if he was, i'd have to worry about how healthy that relationship is). she was afraid of losing him because of that thing. you need to trust each other, talk to each other. only then it works out!

P: answered that one before (:

J: Do you like to be in serious relationships or just flings?

oh man, if i'm in a 'thing', then i'm probably in it with my heart and soul. i'm not a fling or one night person. i'm a hopeless romantic. i want someone to care about me, hear me out, love my character and my flaws. but here comes the other thing. i shy away from any closeness. i'm afraid of letting someone close enough to me because that just wakes all my insecurities. i'm afraid of being so open to someone because i'm not a sharer. i'm a very private person and letting someone into my world is a horrific imagination. so you see my problem. but yeah, ideally i'd choose serious relationships.

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p, s, z, 4

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P: What about 'love at first sight'? Why or why not?

nope. i don't believe such a thing exists. it's more like 'attraction at first sight' - that i believe in. because i basically experience this whenever i'm out of the house, on public transport, in class. you can see a person and think, wow, s/he's cute, and then you hear them speak or watch them do things, and you're just amazed. but that's not love. love is when you actually get to know to this person, if you spend time together and you fall in love with his/her character. attraction can of course lead to love. love at first sight is just a romantic product, a myth i think. although i consider myself a romantic i find this kind of thing a little silly - but whoever wants to believe in it, if they feel better with that, then they should believe in it.

S: What do you consider a deal breaker?

most likely cheating. i think this is the worst thing you can do in a relationship. well, it could be worse if the cheater is quiet about it. but i'd feel betrayed in both cases and really, if my significant other doesn't care enough about me to be faithful, what am i doing in this relationship? relationships built on trust, and with that my trust in the person would be over. i probably can forgive after a while but i'd never go back to that person. i have no guarantee that he'd do it all over again.

Z: Do you believe love can conquer all things?

that's a really romantic idea. i'd love to believe in it. but yeah. i don't speak from experience because i haven't been in a relationship before, but i believe that people can be toxic to each other. if you love a person that is toxic for you, you should run. even if you care about this person very much, they don't do you any good. you can't heal them magically with love. and if you're toxic yourself but you love someone, you shouldn't force yourself on them. even if they love you back, maybe they don't know yet how bad you are for them. so that's the thing. of course love can conquer many other things. not only romantic love but also family love and friends love can get you through bad times if you're feeling down, or have stress, things like that. love can also be a catalysator to do good things. so my answer is: yes, but conditionally.

4: What do you notice first about another person?

eyes. i'm all about the eyes, really. i just find them so fascinating. and i get really poetic about them when i'm thinking about another person's eyes. you can see emotions, also some people have just beautiful eyes. i don't really care about colour in that sense, but i like the idea that people have a certain eye colour for a reason. even if that's just a stupid romantic thought lmao. but - i find eyes beautiful, and i allow myself to be shallow about that. and after eyes it's probably hair or hands. oh my god i love hands. hands tell stories. piano hands or guitar hands or a worker's hands. damn, i need to write something.

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1 and 3?

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1: Would you break up with someone your parents didn't approve of?

hard to say but probably not. i'm an adult, after all (if i don't seem like it, or if they still see me as their little girl). i believe that my parents have enough trust in me to lead my life the way i want to, and even if they're right it's still my relationship i need to see for myself why i am with this person or breaking up with this person. 

3: Do you think long distance relationships can work? Why or why not?

i believe that they can work, but both partners have to be dedicated in keeping this relationship alive. i have seen both cases. one of my best friend's boyfriend went away for a whole year to another country on another continent and it changed him drastically within half a year, when he broke up with her. but then another friend's girlfriend is away for a year too, and they love each other still and talk almost every day, he even went over there for a few weeks to spend time with her. it really depends on each person, really. who knows who my boyfriend meets on the other side of the world? what he experiences there? it's hard to calculate that because that differs to. people develope differently geographically, and as soon someone's far away, his mind goes with him. so maybe their character changes - while someone is having an adventure in australia, the other is still stuck at home in his habitual surroundings. i think whoever considers a long distance relationship should keep such things in mind, and if they're not sure if this will work out, they should be honest to each other and think about if they really want to take this risk.