So another update regarding ok Cupid guy.
I texted him again tonight. I told myself I was gonna wait, but I have no self control, so I didn’t. I just sent him a hey, nothing extra, no emojis or anything.
I get a reply that says “hello? Who is this?”
I freak out a little, thinking that maybe I was right and he met someone else and his new person was about to go off. So I say “it’s Taylor”. Then I get “oh okay, Tom just has you in here as the heart symbol, so I wasn’t sure.” I am now even more confused. Then I get “when was the last time you talked?” So I tell my mystery correspondent that I haven’t heard from Tom since last Friday and I was really worried about him. My mystery correspondent then reveals herself: it’s his mom. He was in a fucking car accident last Saturday and has been in the fucking hospital this whole time! However, I am still perplexed as to why, if she’s had his phone this whole time, did she not say something sooner? I’ve texted him almost every day since last Friday. However I do not ask. I ask if he’s gonna be okay, she says he’s got some swelling around his brain, but it’s going down and the doctor thinks he’s gonna be okay. She apologized for us having to meet this way and then proceeds to tell me that Tom told her about me and how excited he was and that he was going to see me on Valentine’s Day. Now, I am even more confused. We had no plans for Valentine’s Day. None that we discussed anyway. So if he was going to surprise me it wouldn’t have been much of a surprise, he would have had to either find out where I live or where I work because he does not possess either of those pieces of information. Then I just get a single text that says “oh my”.
Now, the day before we had last spoken, Tom and I had exchanged some texts. Some NSFW type texts. As is our wont, we’re both adults and it was consensual.
So she then excuses herself from the conversation. It’s nearly midnight after all, she says good night, I say good night and ask that she keep me updated on Tom’s condition.
About five minutes later, she asks me how serious it is between me and her son. I say it’s getting pretty serious, he asked me to be his girlfriend after all. She then informs me that she had scrolled up through the texts to see if I had sent him a picture so she could find out what I looked like and she saw the fucking texts!
So of course I apologized. I am so fucking embarrassed and I let her know that. She then proceeds to start berating both me and her son for doing such a thing because, and this is a direct quote, “We didn’t do that sort of thing when I was your age”. First of all, your son is 30 and I’m 27 so we aren’t fucking children. Second of all, texting wasn’t a thing when you were our age! If you wanted to send someone a nude you had to take a goddamn Polaroid and put it in the fucking mail! Then she asks me how old I am and I tell her and she’s like I know he’s an adult but have some self respect. Not that we’re adults. That he’s an adult. And the self respect line was its own sentence, so I’m certain it was directed at me and not her son, despite the fact that he was a very willing and enthusiastic participant😏
Then she says that we shouldn’t be sharing all of that if we haven’t even met yet and then she proceeds to infer that if I do that for her son, I must do it for other men as well and basically accuses me of having an onlyfans! Which like, is not at all a bad thing in my opinion, I respect the hustle, but like they way she framed it, as if I’m some slut corrupting her son, her ADULT son, like Jesus Christ lady.
Clearly this was meant to be a private interaction between your son and myself and no one else was ever supposed to see any of it. His profile said he was Christian but I was really hoping he didn’t come from a family of that kind of Christian. The “the Bible says only God can judge but he’s not here so I’ll be taking up the gavel” kind of Christian.
I, of course, apologized again, politely refuted her insinuation, and again apologized and asked that she not let what she’s seen color her opinion of me in the future. She has not responded.
What the actual fuck just happened? I can’t even process the fact that Tom might still fucking die and I will never have gotten to see him because his mom just whole ass called me a whore after snooping through her adult son’s phone.
