My girlfriend is poly and I’m not. I don’t really wanna be in a relationship with two other people but, she’s trying to make us have a polyamorous relationship by bringing in another guy, (I’m lesbian), I’ve told her that I really don’t want a relationship like that but, she keeps ignoring me. I don’t know what to do.
I mean it’s down to you and I know this is easier said than done but I think if I was in your position I would honestly just be like ‘nope!!!!!’ and get out of a relationship like that. Like, first of all, she’s not respecting your sexuality/ the fact that you have no attraction to this guy she wants to introduce into your relationship - she’s not communicating with you and is disrespecting you and dragging you into something against your consent and comfort - that is NOT what polyamory is about from my understanding. I may not know much about polyamorous relationships from experience (I’ve never been in one) but I’m pretty sure it has to be mutual??? ? or at least, full of honesty and trust… communication . . and if she can’t even do that with you to begin with, then how does she expect it to work out further than that? From my understanding, polyamoury can involve one person dating like two people (rather than like all three of them dating one another) but even then, it involves communication and if something is making you uncomfortable and upset and your partner is ignoring that, it is not okay and you shouldn’t have to put up with this treatment.
Honestly, anon, I know it really sucks and I’m sorry to hear you’re going through this but you. deserve. better. than how she is treating you. please don’t feel you are obligated to do anything that makes you unhappy or uncomfortable or something you’re unwilling to do! I wish you all the best with this.
if anyone in a poly relationship or who has some experienced in one has any advice to share with anon/others please reply/reblog! ♡
