#oleander rambles

[mys-oleander]

A Pinned Post!

Hello hello~. I’m Mys Oleander, or Andi for short. My pronouns are mostly they/xe here, but she is also fine, and you are definitely allowed to call me a good girl. ;3

I’m 33 years old, I’m asexual, biromantic and nonbinary, polyamorous and I’m a switch. Though I’m bottom leaning, I do enjoy teasing the odd sweet little sub. Something about when they get all flustered and desperate for me…

Most of this will be reblogs of content I find hot, but I have been trying to write more so occasionally I’ll post a thing. You’ll find my fiction under #oleander writes, my other musings under #oleander rambles, and my pictures under #oleander poses. You can also find my stories on ReadOnlyMind!

DMs and Asks are currently open, even to anons (we all know how many of these are side blogs), but if ya’ll abuse it, that’ll change. Please recognize that though we’re on tumblr, if we’ve never spoken before we’re still strangers. We can chat and get to know one another. Once we’ve developed a rapport, I’ll be more than happy to play with you. But I don’t tend to get chummy right away, I don’t obey orders from people who haven’t earned it, and I don’t take people coming into my space trying to harm me lightly.

Also I am tired and overworked bc capitalism so if I don't answer you right away, please don’t take it personally. I will get to you when I am in a better headspace. I am also awkward as hell and kinda shy so pls understand. 😂

Also also, I am Owned and in a lovely triad with @pixiebound and @thechaotic-monsterfucker, so don’t expect friendly play to become any more than that. I am always looking for more friends to talk about kinky stuff with and learn from <3.

If you’re a TERF, transphobe, nazi, pedo/MAP, queerphobe, racist, fatphobe, or bigot of any kind, stay off my blog and don’t interact with my content. If you are a minor, stay off my blog and don’t interact with my content.

And if you’re under 24, please don’t DM me. I’m fine with you scrolling through and commenting, or reblogging my stuff, but interacting with anyone younger than that in a kinky or suggestive manner makes me uncomfortable. Please have your age or age range in your bio. Blogs without even an age range, especially blank blogs, will be blocked.

Please don't add your own links and pictures onto my posts. Discussion and interaction is fine, advertising yourself on my posts is not. That's what your own posts are for!

I am okay being called: a good girl, cutie, pet, dummy, and a slut by anyone. Mys is acceptable if you’re feeling subby. Other things can be negotiated as they come up.

Kinks:

You’ll find a lot of hypnosis, brainwashing, conditioning, gaslighting, and other mind-control content here, as that’s my big red button.

Other things I’m into: degradation/humiliation, praise, dumbification/IQ play (not bimbofication unless I’m in a very specific mood), objectification, dehumanization, orgasm control, cnc, somnophilia, free use, cumplay, power dynamics including TPE, exhibitionism, lactation/hucow role-play, breeding, light petplay, rope play, light impact play, primal play (APPERENTLY).

Soft limits: heavy transformation, heavy petplay, knife play, blood, piss/omorashi, misogyny, intox.

Hard limits: race play, age-play, detrans, scat, findom, drones, feeding/gaining, weight control, incest, mutilation, spit, face slapping, rape (as in, don’t ever use that word when playing with me).

If this sounds harsh it’s because I’m trying to protect myself and any play partners I might have. Play safe, sweetlings~

[mys-oleander]

not ace as in sex-repulsed, uwu small bean (though sex-repulsed aces are 100000% valid and not wanting sex doesn't make you Innocent) or even ace as in "hearts not parts"

but gray ace as in "the person inside is so luminous that I couldn't help but want the body too" and "let me get as close to you as I physically can, I want to make you feel as good as you make me feel."

[mys-oleander]

Hmm if this skirt is indecent because my panties are showing past the modesty panel, clearly the solution is for me to get smaller panties. Or to go without.

[mys-oleander]

just a note

Hey, I'm some random person from the internet who hasn't been properly introduced. Yeah, pretty sus. Still, sounds like you were looking for attention, hence this message. Whoever I am, I used to be more active on tumblr, and I'm getting back into it. I'm a long-time reader of the other erotic mind control site (emcsa)-- yes, it has flaws, but I'm old(er). Anyway, I wanted to say I've enjoyed your reposts, interactions, and content, and your selfies/pictures are cute. I'm a _bit_ confused by your self description as asexual, but that's probably because I don't understand it properly. Is this something you've blogged about before that you can bump? Possibly there are multiple definitions or expressions or degrees of asexuality.

Not that asexual people don't deserve romance, attention, affection, etc., but I'm very much "not that", which may limit my ability to "get it".

Anyway, keep up the good work, and I hope others will provide you nice (or at least not horrible) messages as well :-)

Well, welcome to tumblr, whoever you are! I’m glad you like my blog and I appreciate the compliments :3

And I’m happy to educate about asexuality. Asexuality simply means you don’t experience sexual attraction. That’s it. But it is a spectrum, like everything else. My particular brand is demisexuality, and to me, that means that I only experience sexual attraction under specific circumstances. I only start to find the body sexually enticing once I have found the person inside enticing. For example, everyone I’ve dated in the past I knew for years before I started dating them. Like my current girlfriend and boyfriend were just friends with me for like five or six years before we started sleeping together. Also, being asexual doesn’t mean I don’t like sex. I love sex with the right people, under the right circumstances, but I don’t feel like I need sex the way some allosexual (non-asexual people) have described it to me. You also don’t need to have sex to participate in kink; there are so many different levels and types of kink that can be completely sexless. For me, it’s more about intimacy and vulnerability than getting off. Like the orgasms are nice, don’t get me wrong, but it if were about getting off I can do that myself just fine. If I’m doing it with another person, it’s because I want to explore that intimacy with them specifically. I want to surrender to them or have them surrender to me. I want to give this person something and be given something in return. I hope that makes sense, and I’m happy to discuss it further if you have any questions~

[ramblingoleander]

Blog Entry 1 - Things Happen

So, I started this blog on a whim. I was feeling particularly drained and exhausted from an assignment, and decided I needed a private space to vent. I had also recently finished reading a fanfic that involved an anonymous blog. Which is when I came up with the idea for this! Is it the best idea I've ever had? Probably not. Is the origin something I will take to my grave? Maybe! I thought the fic (while unrealistic) was very enjoyable, and some of the blog descriptions gave me ideas for my own. Technically, this is far from my first blog, but it is the first one I will be trying to keep quiet to people I know in person. Hopefully I can manage at least a little bit of online interaction without that though, I do love talking to people and I figure this blog would be more fun with people to reply to!!

With that out of the way, what are things I'd like to do on this blog, in addition to these journal entries?

Here's some of the ideas I've brainstormed so far:

• Journal entries (obviously)

• Recipes (I like to bake sometimes, so I'd include an image of my final product!)

• Reviews (movies, shows, books, and food) of things I've tried

• Ranking/tier lists! (Lighthearted ones)

• Infodumps (this might still fall under journal entries? But because I could go on and on for a while, this will have its own category for now)

• Anonymous replies, only answering anons (my asks are already open)^ since that last one is something I thought of from the start, I'll follow this post up with brief guidelines for my ask box!! :)

I'll leave it to the ask box to suggest anything else they'd like from me!!!

Also, that assignment that had me very close to crashing out? It got done, which is why I never followed up on the first post the same night like I originally said. I was productive!! So all I did was set up the account and first post, outline another post and go back to the assignment that was due in less than 30 minutes (I turned it in a bit after midnight but the prof seems to be lenient with that if it's still submitted the night it's due because who else would be awake at that hour if not a dedicated/desperate student? (I'm the latter by the way) Hopefully all goes well!! My assignments are almost all caught up on, so the stress should lessen any day now. (I say, knowing full well finals are right around the corner)

Lastly, I got rejected from my dream program this morning. I feel like I'm taking it way better than I expected, honestly. I didn't cry, just asked for a hug or five and carried on with my day. It didn't feel like the world was ending or anything, either. Now, it's been several hours since then, and I feel a kind of,, dread? I have another program I got accepted to long before this rejection, so that probably softened the blow, but the anticipation of starting a new program AND the stress of finishing my current one is getting to me. Just a bit. But it'll be okay. Everything will turn out, you'll see! My trip home is almost over, so I should wrap this post up and get to working on the ask guidelines to post together.

Thanks for reading! (I should come up with a group name for whoever reads these, maybe send in some ideas?)

Anyways, that's all for now!

byeeeeee <333

- R. Oleander

[ramblingoleander]

Blog Entry 0 - The Introduction

Hi there, this blog isn't here to cause problems. My general Idea for this blog is to have a place to kinda anonymously ramble about things. It could be anything from simple joys of my day, rants about things I found frustrating, fun facts I found interesting, or if anyone ever finds me interesting enough, to reply to anons'questions and stories with advice and whatnot. I may not reply directly but make a post to try to help indirectly! I'm not super sure about the direction I want to take this blog in just yet, but I've decided that I should have an outlet instead of letting everything swim alone in my own head. So starting today, that's what I'll be doing. There will be no reblogs, and images only when relevant, because everything on this blog will be posted according to my whims; aka whatever mood I'm in that day. I'll keep this one short and make my actual entry for today soon. I'm currently not even writing this on the actual site, I'm writing on my own little archive program. I'm gonna set up a neat little blog page and go from there.

- R. Oleander

[mys-oleander]

Tumblr is trying to sell me a collar you wear while you sleep that is supposed to keep you asleep through the night.

The horniest thing I have EVER seen pls can I have 3 and I'll even let you program them 🥹

[mys-oleander]

well vacation with my paramours is officially over *insert grumbles about space/time here* so I'll soon have brain space to respond to the people I haven't in a bit. hopefully.