oncethesleepcomes replied to your post “nonbinary identities are included in lesbian attraction… just like you...”
one thing that bothers me about like. the lgbt community is that people take labels as a rule rather than something that helps explain how they define themselves so like. being a Lesbian means you have to be a girl who only likes girls and nothing else. if you think you like anyone who's not explicitly a girl, you don't actually, bc that's not Lesbian. and it's like. y'all sexuality is fluid and these words are here to explain how you feel, not confine yourself into a box
i initially made this post bc i saw ppl on twitter defending “bi-lesbians” by saying “it’s not bi as in being attracted to men, its bi as in being attracted to women and nb people ;)” and im just ghfghfghghfghgfg please stop please stop
i understand why people feel compelled to make specific labels but it the end its kind of a detriment to your ability to express yourself because it allows no wiggle room. the older i get the more i appreciate broader labels because when i was a teenager i decided on some super specific label that i never felt comfortable with, and when i figured out i was nb i hesitated on deviating from the “pan” label because i thought “how can i be a lesbian if i am not a woman??” even though that made no sense to call myself pan because i’m not attracted to men. but i learned later that lesbians have always had a complicated relationship with gender and there are a lot of nb lesbians!!
also i feel like “lesbians” becoming a sort of meme in the last few years--”let’s go lesbians”,“lesbians what is your wisdom”/etc--has made a lot of people want “in” on it? the good side is that it helped me discover i was a lesbian and feel good about it after growing up with “lesbian” being a dirty word and probably helped a lot of other people too. but i see a lot of people going “i’m not a lesbian but i wanna call myself a lesbian” and like. if you want to call yourself a lesbian, that might be a symptom of being a lesbian. but also you can’t be a lesbian and be attracted to men....being a lesbian is about not being attracted to men. Bi/pan people have preferences and it’s TOTALLY ok and normal, you dont have to call yourself a bi-lesbian because you have a preference for women, you can just be bi with a preference!!
