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another great videography thing, this time framing, was this conversation
"george must've forgotten to restock"
"no. this is my fault. i should've realized what was happening to him."
"no. it all started going wrong when i joined. i screwed everything up between you."
lucy says the first part while looking in boxes on the bottom shelf, the camera pans up to the second shelf when lockwood speaks and then up to the third shelf as lucy responds, they are literally one upping each other
This is bullshit. (Storytime with Ashton !!)
Okay okay okay, I know I'm going to get a lot of backlash for this, but I have a story. So, I've recently been ill with a fever, so I posted a "ugh I'm sick" thing on my Instagram story. Good, good, right? Wrong. A user who follows me, let's call them Stardust, replied to my story. We started dm-ing, and this is how the conversation went; Stardust: "Aww, I was sick too!" Ash: "Really? I hope you're better :)" S: "Yeah, I'm better now! If you don't mind me asking, what were you sick with?" A: "Oh, I had a fever of 103... I felt terrible haha, you?" S: "Oh, my astral wings were broken... They really hurt and it took forever to heal..." ... Really. I mean, I get it, you're an otherkin, but really? I had a fever of 103 and you pull out the bullshit of your astral wings being 'broken'? Okokok... I'll continue with the convo... This may surprise you... Stardust tried to one up me for EVERYTHING; A: "Oh? Sorry, but are you an otherkin?' S: "Yeah! You?" A: "Not myself, but I have a friend who is :)" S: "Cool, are they a male dragon? I'm looking for a mate" A: "Not that I know... No...?" S: "That's too bad. Ugh my wings hurt. Are you still feeling bad?" A: "Yeah, I'm still pretty nauseous..." OH BOI HERE WE GO S: "Oh, my wings make me feel nauseaus all the time, I've learned to control my nausea." A: "Cool. I have a fever tho, idk how I can control my nausea." S: "Well, mines been controlled for years. My wings also give me huge back pains and I have to go to physical therapy twice a week." A: "Oh no. I hope your back gets better" S: "It's only getting worse. My wings get my sick all the time, not to mention my parents don't feed me properly" A: "What?" S: "Yeah, my mom hides her jewelery! I swallowed one of her pearls once, but she's starving me!" The rest went on like this and I eventually told them that I had a real illness. They tried to one up me again and say that they were suffering from the flu, a cold, and a fever (WTH) and they had depression and anxiety. I got fed up and nearly lashed out (I didn't luckily), but told them to stop one upping me. They told me they weren't and then had the audacity to accuse me of threatening them. I guess I don't really have a message, I just needed to rant. But please please please, if you are an otherkin/therian/whatever TF you are, I will respect you as long as you respect me, but don't use your "wings/tail/ears" to try to one up people... At least not people with real illnesses or sicknesses. Thank you. -Ashton 😗
It feels like a friend (29M) tries to "win" conversations, how do I (29M) deal with this?
I (29M) have always really enjoyed spending time with a close friend of mine (29M), but lately I’ve started feeling a bit anxious when interacting with him. It often feels like anything I say or ask turns into an opportunity for him to show that he already knows everything about the topic (and that I don’t). It’s getting to the point where I sometimes avoid bringing up certain subjects entirely, because I expect I’ll just get lectured. I also get the sense that he struggles to admit when he doesn’t know something. For example, when we’re talking about something we both have some knowledge of (but aren’t experts in), I might ask a general, open-ended question just to think it through together. Instead of discussing it, he’ll launch into a long explanation of how things are according to him, without really leaving space for me or anyone else to contribute. What’s especially frustrating is when I know some of what he’s saying isn’t correct: if I question anything he says, he tends to pivot immediately: “No, I didn’t mean it like that, what I meant was [complete opposite]…” and then just keeps going. On the flip side, when he doesn’t know something, he rarely admits it. Instead, he’ll ask a question in a slightly annoyed tone, as if the topic itself doesn’t make sense. When we explain, he responds with something like, “Ohhh, that’s what you meant,” in a way that makes it feel like we just didn’t explain it properly rather than him simply not being familiar with it. Then he’ll often repeat the explanation back to us as if he’s the one clarifying it. Having conversations like this is honestly pretty draining. I catch myself disengaging or not wanting to speak up because it feels like he’s constantly looking for chances to prove his knowledge. Whether it’s to me, himself, or others, I’m not sure. The thing is, it didn’t used to be like this. We used to have long, thoughtful discussions where we could explore ideas together, even when neither of us knew everything. Now it feels more like he’s trying to “win” every conversation. How do I approach it without creating tension?
When you start putting limitations and expectations on an open conversation, you really limit yourself and make it impossible. You cannot approach this without creating tension because it's not solely up to you. It might very well be tense! That might even be a necessary part of resolving and moving forward from this! By trying to avoid tension, you're really just trying to avoid the issue. Same thing when people come asking "how can I do this without starting an argument?" or "how can I break up without upsetting/hurting them?" or "how can I get them to agree with me?". Impossible asks. Whenever you interact with other people, A) they are allowed to have their feelings like you have yours, B) everyone contributes to the environment, and C) everyone has the autonomy to choose how they react. The other living, breathing person is a variable you simply can't control. You can approach things as gently or sensitively or open-mindedly as possible, but nothing is going to guarantee that the other person does what you want instead of what they want. All you can do is have this conversation and hope he values the friendship enough to both listen and work on altering this behavior. But you can't go in with the perfect plan to make this an easy, smooth, non-fraught conversation because that's just not how human (or any animal!) interaction works. I'm sorry. Best of luck!
My (23M) friend (26F) constantly gives unsolicited advice, how do I tell her to stop kindly?
She’s a good friend, she’s generally very nice to have around. But these last few months, I’ve been noticing a pattern that bothers me (and other people): if anyone talks to her about a situation in their life, she will try to put herself in a « teacher » position, like she knows something they surely don’t. It’s a bit hard to explain but let me give short examples: a mutual friend complained about his boss treating him badly, and she replied « I’ll write you an email with every law article that says what he’s doing is illegal, I know my law very well, I can scare him. » which seems like a nice thing to do, but it bothered our friend because she didn’t ask If he needed her help, she assumed he did, and that he had no idea how the law works and couldn’t write that email himself. (she doesn’t have a law degree or anything either) Another example, I was trying to read a handwritten letter and couldn’t decipher a few words, so I asked her if she could read it. She helped me find them, I said « thanks ! » and she then proceeded to give me the definition of each word (all common, by the way). Which, again, is a small thing and could come from a good place, but I don’t like that she assumed I didn’t know what the words meant. It just makes me feel like she thinks other people always know less than her. She also hates when someone knows more than her because she can’t do this: she was talking to me the other day about a popular political figure from the 80s in my country (again, didn’t ask if I knew him, just started the conversation with « I just discovered this guy, let me let you about him »), but I am much more involved in politics than she is, the guy in question is very popular in my party and also some of the info she gave me was wrong lol. So I just said « Thanks, I already know about him though, I’m glad you discovered him he’s great » and kindly corrected her wrong information. She texted me the next morning that it made her feel very bad and that I could’ve just thanked her for the info instead of « showing off that I already knew him ». These are just a few situations but honestly she does this all the time, it’s almost impossible to have a conversation without her giving unsolicited advise or explaining obvious things like she’s teaching other people. I don’t know if what I’m saying makes sense, but it’s really been bugging me and I want to tell her because I’m not sure she knows she’s doing this. I just don’t know how to say it nicely, I don’t want to make her feel bad but I do want her to stop, lol. And also please do tell me if you think I’m being petty for no reason, I understand it’s also a possibility.
Leave examples THAT AREN'T ABOUT YOU out of it, even if the other person has verbally confirmed it bothers them. You cannot and should not attempt to speak for other people.
Since you have tried politely correcting her and just letting things go, and she becomes confrontational over it, I will provide a potential example script to start with (though I think that trying to talk about this on a case-by-case basis might be less overwhelming).
Practice your I- statements and focus on how it makes you feel rather than trying to objectively state that she's speaking wrong. Try to make it a conversation rather than a lecture.
"Hey, this is hard to say, but I want to say it because I really value your friendship, and I'd like to try and understand where this comes from so we can work through it. Have you noticed that you have a tendency to need to be the smartest person in the room?"
(Her: Huh? No? What do you mean???)
"It really confuses me because you are genuinely a smart and awesome person, and I value your opinion. Sometimes it feels like you don't value my opinion, though, like when you were talking to me about [politics guy] and were upset that I had some information that contradicted what you'd learned. Misinformation is really easy to come across. I hadn't pointed it out to shame you, but rather because that's an important part of a back-and-forth conversation between two adults who respect each other. I love when you share your knowledge with me, but I'd like for there to be room for me to do the same with you. What kind of things do you want out of a friendship with me?"
But I will tell you that I have a friend like this, and at the end of the day, I just had to pull back from the friendship. She is a "small doses" person. It's a shame she's so insecure and unwilling to do anything to overcome that, but hey. I have my own flaws. I'm sure I did a ton of shit that annoyed and upset her, too. I'm just the one that became overwhelmed and decided to back away first.
In which Adrien will forever remain oblivious
idk has this been done
Ok so my dad just told me this now but apparently that one time when I was like four and my family went to Disney land some random ass five year old came up to me and said "I bet my grandfather is funnier than your grandfather" and I was like "?????" and apparently Robin Williams was also there that day and so when my dad asked the kid who his grandfather was bc I was slightly freaking out the kid said "he's a famous comedian" so I guess Robin William's grandson tried to outdo me at family Well guess what kid I bet ur dad never crossed the Bering strait on a dogsled being pulled by a snowmobile or lived next door to Santa Claus who's got a cool family now
