Anon Advice Asks - September 30
uncomfortable situation anon (new), 14 anon, bisexual muslim anon (new), ladybug anon (new), outlive anon (new)
uncomfortable situation anon (new)
hi! okay so i'm in a bit of a weird situation and i don't really have anyone i feel like i can talk to about it
so recently i joined this club and it's been fun so far and i thought i had actually made a friend. and even better, the person is trans too and i've never had any irl queer friends before so i was excited.
but uh, okay i don't know how to put this but i think they might be starting to be a bit inappropriate. a few of the things they've said to me has made me feel weird and like i'm not sure whether i should be uncomfortable or not. i've made it clear that i have a partner and they're still being like this. i don't know, i'm wondering if maybe this is just their personality? maybe they're like this with everyone. i really don't know them much at all yet but i was really hoping we could be friends. but i'm kinda worried that this might start escalating to the point where i really am uncomfortable and something worse happens.
also, i'm 18 and i have no other trusted adults to talk to about this so that's not really an option
oh and one part of this is, yes i am trans as well but i'm not out and so i feel like if i talk to anyone that knows this person, they'll just think i'm transphobic. ugh i don't know what to do
Hi!
Okay well I think the first thing is, if you feel uncomfortable then there's no 'should' or 'shouldn't.' You ARE uncomfortable so the way this person is acting isn't okay, period.
I think the first thing you need to do, even though it's scary, is to set some boundaries. Say something like "Hey, I think you're really cool and I like hanging out with you, but I don't like it when you do x"
If they respect that and work to change their behavior, then that's a good sign! If not, then...red flag. People need to respect your boundaries and if they don't, they're not good friends and you should take some space.
I know all of this is a lot harder than it sounds, but unfortunately, setting boundaries is the best way to get the respect that YOU deserve.
Keep me updated if you think of it! <3
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14 anon
Hey it’s 14 anon
It’s been about a month since school started and I’ve been having a really good time except for pe (but honestly pe is always shit)
My mum has even sent a message to the SENCO asking if it was possible for me to go into a normal form with one of my friends and we’re waiting for a message back
We had a science practical on Wednesday and I was working with my friend and her friends and we were using potatoes and the boys next to use kept throwing bits of potatoes at us and it was hilariousssss. At one point an entire half potato hit my friend and we ended up cleaning potato mush from everywhere like even our worksheets
This was gonna be all positive but last night at around 10pm (pitch black) my neighbour who we don’t see often came over and was angry and accusing my mum of cutting his washing line that was attached to our fence and my mum tried explaining that we don’t go out back and he also said that he’s been smelling weed from our house then stormed back to his house.
My mum went over a few mins later and I listened from our door and he just kept going on about how there were clear cut marks and that he’s lived here 25 years so people won’t mess with him and my mum told him that we’ve had issues with our other neighbours grandson smoking it but he said he knows their grandson smokes and he smells some from our house
After I was really paranoid because he came in the dark (I’m terrified of the dark) and I started thinking about people being in the back garden or coming inside and robbing us and I kept almost every light in the house on (living room, downstairs hallway, upstairs bathroom and my lamp) and barely slept
Hi! I'm so glad school has been going well! It sucks how your neighbor was acting, though. Could you maybe get a camera to prove your mom isn't the one touching anything? Maybe that'll give you some peace of mind about people being outside, too <3
Sending love!
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bisexual muslim anon (new)
Hi cas, i feel like i have a big problem, i live in a muslim county and i am muslim myself, and everyone here is literally homophobic and being someone who like a lot of homosexual things is extremely hard, also recently i discovered that i am bisexual, and i am trying to like myself without feeling guilt because it's against my religion, that's not the problem, the problem is my friends i have two friends my best friend is extremely homophobic, like today i was telling her that i want to have more Muscles and i want to look more masc and she told that i would look like a lesbian and she said is a very homophobic way and i feel like she would never except who i really am and that i would never come out to her i was really mad at her but i didn't tell her why i just have a feeling that she can never talk to me again just because i am bi and i really want to talk to her about the girl i like and i can't what should i do?
also sorry for talking so much
Hi!
I'm so sorry that you're going through this right now </3 this is so hard because I think like...trying to decide whether or not you still want to be friends with someone, knowing these are the beliefs they were raised on...it's difficult and to be honest, I can't imagine your position. I think you have to remember that you can't necessarily change how your friend feels. You can't control they way people think. But you CAN control what you do. What's best for you? Would you rather keep this friendship, because you value it and you want the community? Or would you rather not be friends, because you know she doesn't accept a part of you? Either decision, I think, is valid; given your situation.
Also I want to say--there are a lot of queer muslim people. I think the internet could be a super valuable place for you to find queer muslim people like yourself who are trying to reconcile their identity and their faith. I promise, you're not alone, and you are NOT a bad person for how you feel.
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ladybug anon (new)
Hi! I hope your day/night is going well. I've recently started writing and I really like it but im really struggling with keeping my microfics micro. (My first one was 1,033 words) So do you have any advice for keeping them short and sweet?
Hi!
Honestly my best advice is to zoom in as much as possible. Pick a single moment of time, and don't focus too much on backstory. You can imagine the before and after as much as you want, but only write about ONE moment.
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outlive anon (new) - SI warning
Cass my go to support for my suicidal thoughts was i need to outlive Charles kink. Fuck what am I gonna do my motive is gone (though I succeed!)
hahahaha I'm so sorry I shouldn't laugh but this strategy is 10/10
Now focus on trying to outlive Trump! because God knows we all deserve to live in a world without him. (Dear FBI agent this is not a threat)