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What’s Wrong With Yandere - A PSA

Hey!!! It’s Claude! I know you haven’t heard from me in a while (wow), but I am here to talk about something not cool in the dangan ronpa oc community. And all other communities? And in general. 

The yandere trope.

More under the cut on why it’s actually super ableist? 

First of all: the word itself.

The term is a portmanteau from the words yanderu (病んでる?) meaning a mental or emotional illness, and deredere (でれでれ?) meaning to show genuinely strong romantic affection.

That’s from wikipedia.  (Scroll down to Y and see the definition of YANDERE)

So that’s a great start, portraying a mentally ill person as VIOLENT or someone who would exhibit abusive behaviors like someone falling under the “yandere trope” does.

Second: the illness usually associated with it is usually not like that at all?

I was diagnosed this year by my therapist with erotomania. Erotomania is a delusional disorder in which an individual deludes themselves into thinking that someone is in love with them. 

Sounds familiar, right? A “yandere” usually deludes themselves into thinking someone is in love with them.

But it’s very extreme. It gives the stigma that ALL people with erotomania are stalkers/killers/would kill/are abusive towards s/o/cannot be in a stable relationship. 

Stalking is very bad, murder is very bad. All the abusive behaviors “yanderes” exhibit are not great. 

You know what else is not great? Generalizing based on someone’s neurodivergencies.

I’m not very eloquent right now because I’m a bit angry, but please feel free to message me for more information on why it’s bad!

IMPORTANT NOTICE:

if you have a “yandere” chara.......thats fine, i guess. im not telling you to change your chara. i have two charas with erotomania....

but you should know that your “yandere” chara IS neuroatypical and if you don’t have those illnesses, you should research them to portray them properly!!

thank you for reading, have a nice day!!

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at this intersection...

a kaguya playlist to kick off this blog...nice

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………………..peach man

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status: obliterated by the nikotoru playlist

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As if I was being called out by a mirage, I came all the way to this place.

my mod chara for cynismi, sprites by ratmom!!!!

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astral aus i want:

camping au

sleepover au

pre-despair au

fantasy au

harry potter au

pokemon au

mafia au

madoka magica au

snk au

beach trip au

cats au

COFFEE SHOP AU

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Endgame Notes

Well what a good game that was! I feel like that was a fitting ending, although I am so full of questions it hurts. I've updated the Relationships page and I think I'm just about done.

I feel a little regretful that I couldn't make Aimé friends with the ENTIRE cast (except Naknak), because I love them all so much and I have never met a set of more interesting characters. I'm also very happy that the first game I ever saw through to the end was this one; I've met so many awesome people and have been inspired so much by the art and writing. I'd like to personally thank the mods for making this all happen and giving us such an enjoyable experience.

I think that Aimé would want to protect Max, Jaz and all the others until the end. And of course, he would still have the thoughts of all the lost students in his mind, making sure not to forget them. He would keep going forever, as he promised his parents, and Lukas, to stay alive.

I'd like to think that all of the kids do end up somewhere and start up life again, somehow. After all, that would be what Aimé would be hoping for, and my ideal ending.

I will probably still be lurking here, but for those of you that won't be, à bientôt, space cowboys. B^)