#para cw

[radqueerfluff]

can someone explain to me why pro-c is bad? i’m cis-autistic and its kinda hard for me to understand, but i’ve heard it is abusive and i don’t wanna support that. thanks! ˚ʚ♡ɞ˚

[chaoscoining]

"Harmful paraphillas" and "the big three" have always kinda bothered me as terms, as they sort of beat around the bush about the actual problems and what is being talked about, so here's an alternative I thought of:

Impossible-Consent Paraphilias.

This makes it clear what's actually being referred to (paraphilias that cannot be consented to) and without the implication "harmful" has sometimes where anyone who has them is inherently going to cause harm. It allows for expansion in the way "the big three" does not, and is also more clear on what it actually means without context on what "the big three" actually are.

It also avoids including ageplay, petplay, or consensual non-consent, as these are all things which can be consented to (though obviously your mileage may vary on your interpretation of them otherwise).

Not sure if this'll catch on or anything, but if anyone else was uncomfortable with the common phrasing, I wanted to share my alternative.

[chaoscoining]

my problem w/ "Impossible-consent paraphilias" is that it groups Objectum (especially non-POSIC+ OS/OR) in with things like Zoo/etc. because of the whole "objects cannot truly consent or even try to stop you the way a person could" debate/issue (which I've even seen POSIC+ people have differing views on). - a non-POSIC+ OS/OR person

I think including objectum in it isn't inherent to the term at all actually, and only the people who genuinely believe objects are both sentient and cannot consent would really genuinely group it that way. If you believe such is true, then it SHOULD be applicable, because that IS an impossible-consent situation and incredibly uncomfortable. If you don't believe that, then it's not applicable. The majority of people - for better or for worse - don't think of objects as sentient or about objectum at all, so unless it's being used by someone who is objectum or POSIC+, I don't think you'd need to worry about it.