#parenting cw

[stygicniron]

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[bodycountgame]

This is an amazing game and I’m trying so hard to enjoy the calm before the murders :-] might I ask who among the ROs would want to be parents, and what kind of parents they’d be? Tysm!

Aw thanks anon, you're big cutie!

Okay so... parents:

I think Adegoke and Griff would be the keenest to be parents someday; having a family is very important to them. They’d both be very enthusiastic and hands on about the whole thing – they’re around a lot of kids at home anyway, so they’re pretty used to it. Adegoke would be a more competent disciplinarian, but Griff would be way better at ~adventure~.

Charlie, Florrie and Imogen would also all be pretty into the idea of having kids, but less so. Charlie already has the dad jokes down so he’d be set. Imogen would be a little neurotic but ultimately well meaning – she’d just want to make sure that her kids had all the love and support and safety that she never did. Florrie would for sure want to be a MILF. Every time a baby threw up on her she’d be like “:/ Am I still a MILF?”

Arthur, Atticus, Avery, Nyra and Syd have all never really pictured themselves with kids, but I think if their SO wanted them badly enough then they’d be willing to re-evaluate. Arthur is probably the worst with kids of all of them haha – he just doesn’t really get them or how to talk to them. I think Avery would be best, although best believe she would really have to pump the breaks to stop herself planning every second of their lives.

Atticus would totally be sitting up nights worrying about being a dad – he just knows he has so much to work on before he’d be even a passable parent. Nyra would be similar, I think – she’d need to do Big Therapy before having a kid. Syd would go in with much more confidence and only really have their big parenting crisis when the kid was already there and they realise that they're waaaaaay in over their head hahaha.

Ellis, Rowan and Vinh all absolutely don’t want children. It’d be more of An Issue for them.

[paleimitation-if]

who wants kids? who doesn’t?

Oh the kid question! Let's see...

Sola: She hasn't given it much thought (being a YA protagonist is hard work) but I think she could go either way with kids. Growing up as the eldest of three ensured she knows how to interact with them, but that also means she understands of how much of a responsibility kids are. I think it would ultimately come down to some long discussions with her partner.

Aleksandr: He's expected to have kids when he becomes a ruler, but he's really not a fan. The expectations of the environment he grew up in were horrible, and the last thing he wants to do is put another child through that. If his partner really wanted a kid he'd be willing to re-evaluate, but he'd still be really panicky at the start.

Nicai: I think he's probably the one who wants kids the most out of the cast. He has a lot of ideas of having a family one day, so he'd be a really enthusiastic dad. Would get really good at striking the work/play balance. 100% a doting father.

Malis: It's not something they've given a lot of thought to as well, but they lean towards no kids. They have a lot of dreams about traveling around, and combined with their job taking up a lot of their time, they figure it wouldn’t be the best environment to raise a kid in.

Ren: Doesn't really want kids, but again, it comes down to talking it out with their partner. Ultimately though, if convinced I think Ren would want to adopt older kids rather than have a baby or a toddler. They'd be a really understanding parent, but changing diapers just isn't something they see in their future.

[eternalgirlscout]

i’m already so proud of my future children

[condensed-theorem-shop]

my mom worries an excessive amount, and this can be frustrating, but she is at least generally reasonable about worrying in the correct proportions

there was never any nonsense about not talking to strangers as a kid; she didn’t bother with any kind of “stranger danger” lecture. in fact the only time I remember the topic coming up at all was when she managed to forget smol!me at church (this was not a Pattern Of Neglect or anything, she just had a brain fail) and a friend of the family who’s a firefighter offered to give me a ride home, and smol!me stalwartly Refused To Get Into A Car With A Non-Parent Adult and insisted that he call my mom to come get me instead. when she arrived, after she was done panicking and apologizing, she clarified that in general it was OK to take rides from firefighters, especially if we knew them well.

on the other hand, she spent plenty of time worrying about whether I wore my helmet when I rode my bike, and used hand signals, and understood right-of-way rules, and stayed off of busy streets, and didn’t bike in front of cars that were about to make a left turn while they were looking to the right. and, like -- she may have worried too much about this, but at least she was worrying about the actually dangerous thing, you know?

similarly, when I was eighteen and going off to spend a semester in Europe on my own, she did not express any worries about her newly-adult daughter wandering foreign countries on her own; and indeed, while I once ended up outside a closed McDonalds at 3AM in the bad part of town trying to ask drunk students who only spoke Hungarian for directions, nothing bad ever happened to me or any of my friends there. on the other hand, she worried lots about pickpockets, including insisting on getting me one of those under-your-clothes wallets (which I did not use), and while I did not get pickpocketed a good proportion of my friends did at one point or another.

this is something I appreciate about her parenting! not that it wouldn’t be even nicer if she worried less in general, but it would be much more frustrating if she worried about the wrong things.

[butchspace]

Butches can be pregnant Butches can want to be pregnant  Butches can nurse  Butches can want to nurse  (This 100% applies to nb butches as well as trans feminine butches and intersex butches who want to be pregnant but know they probably won’t get the chance to.)  

[flownintothesun]

                            ⋆ ✰ ⋆ ─── for @lcngdays ; a soft kind of chaos.

       "𝐖𝐎𝐀𝐇, 𝐇𝐄𝐘 𝐓𝐇𝐄𝐑𝐄," Westley murmurs, his voice warm as he scoops a strange kid up into his arms because at that size and age and with that determination, he doesn’t trust that bodily blocking them would do the trick. Not that he’s ever seen this kid — just that running down that particular road isn’t good news. Who knows what strange shit happens in Dominik Popov’s territory? No place for a kid, that’s for damn sure. “Don’t worry, I can see you’re a proper escape artist — just need to find your adult, yeah?” Soho in general isn’t a place for a runaway kid — there are roads that are perfectly fine, but before you know it you’ll hit one of the not-so-fine places. Better safe than sorry when you’re just a kid. “I’ll put you down soon as we do.”

      Westley’s heart is absolutely hammering as he looks around. At 5′8 — he can’t exactly see over all of the crowd — and there is a crowd. It’s London — always busy, and always moving in grayscale, and always drizzling rain. Last thing Westley needs to do is freak a kid out and get the authorities involved — kinda his job to not do that exact thing. “You’re safe? No one’s trying to hurt you, right?” And what would he do if they were? Westley hasn’t been around kids much since he was a kid himself — but he supposes most parents are loving, and most of these situations are just accidental. Still, no harm in making sure, anyway...that things are safe and sound. Not like he's just gonna leave the situation be. Moments make a difference. Kindness makes a difference, even if he'll say he's not a good person...at least sometimes, he's lying.

[flownintothesun]

 ⋆ ✰ ⋆ ───    [ 𝐩𝐫𝐞𝐬𝐬𝐮𝐫𝐞 ] 𝐬𝐞𝐧𝐝𝐞𝐫 𝐬𝐞𝐭𝐬 𝐚 𝐡𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐨𝐧 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐬𝐦𝐚𝐥𝐥 𝐨𝐟 𝐫𝐞𝐜𝐞𝐢𝐯𝐞𝐫'𝐬 𝐛𝐚𝐜𝐤 (𝐌𝐮𝐫𝐢𝐞𝐥 @ 𝐌𝐚𝐫𝐢𝐧)

                          ⋆ ✰ ⋆ ─── 𝐫𝐨𝐦𝐚𝐧𝐜𝐞 𝐨𝐟 𝐡𝐚𝐧𝐝𝐬 & 𝐭𝐨𝐮𝐜𝐡. ( @batteredoptimist )

       𝐓𝐇𝐄 𝐖𝐀𝐘 𝐇𝐄 𝐋𝐎𝐎𝐊𝐒 𝐀𝐓 𝐇𝐄𝐑 𝐈𝐒 𝐒𝐎 𝐖𝐀𝐑𝐌 𝐀𝐍𝐃 𝐅𝐔𝐋𝐋 𝐎𝐅 𝐋𝐎𝐕𝐄 that part of her still thinks that she’s dreaming of Mr. Tall, Dark and Handsome. But there are little details that draw her to reality — the little flecks of gold in his eyes, like treasure — the way his grin is a little lopsided and nevertheless roguishly handsome. Calloused fingers trace along her spine — and she can’t be certain whether he’s playing her like a well-beloved instrument, or reading her like a favorite book. Either way, he seems to genuinely love her in a way that goes beyond surface level. If she hadn’t been thoroughly disabused of the notion of God, she might think it’s a miracle. Like any other little girl, she’d been privy to the fundamental information that a prince’s job was to scale the tower and save the princess. Marin’s never been a princess — but with him, she can’t help but feel like one. It’s not because of all the flashing lights of cameras he’s warned her about — nor the glamour and glitz of who he is or what material things he can provide her. He could be just as insignificant as she is — and still, she’d feel like the luckiest girl in all of the world to be at his side. His girl.

      Seaglass eyes meet his and she offers a tentative smile back to him. Yes, she’s a bit nervous — but she has been every step of the way so far, and he hasn’t steered her wrong. It’s just that it’s hard to believe that after everything had gone so wrong for so long that all of a sudden — everything has turned around and is now going perfectly right. It’s better than perfect. This is real, tangible, something — no, someone — that she can hold, that she can pour her love into, and that will love her right back. She’s not naive enough to believe that things will always go right. But she’d like to think that maybe when they’re going wrong — that at least they won’t be alone. They’ll have each other. She never needed perfect — just wanted safety, just wanted home — for her and for her son. Marin’s seen firsthand the cruelties that the world has to offer — it’s only now that she gets to experience its joys. She wants so badly and desperately to believe in this that she hadn’t put up a fuss when he’d offered her a collar — a thin gold band that clasps with a butterfly and a small teardrop-shaped diamond. It doesn’t feel cumbersome or heavy — it doesn’t feel like a cage. Instead, it feels like stepping into a warm bath that smells of honey and sandalwood and musk — the scent that she gets with her nose buried against his neck. The scent that guides her back to him, back home, at every turn.

      She’d worried in the beginning that he would shape her into something that she isn’t. His life in the spotlight is not the life that she’s accustomed to. Everything she’s earned, she’s had to work her ass off for — and even still, it wouldn’t have been enough for she and Ronan to make it on their own without Mr. McCarthy’s kindness. Strangely, the new clothes that she’s wearing, the diamond around her neck and all of the other material things he’s gifted her don’t feel strange or foreign. She’d dressed up to the nines, of course, with Dominik — but the intention there had been clear. Here though — she finds that she wants to look nice for Muriel as well as for herself. And she wants to give him this — a good first impression. She knows the press will say they’ve moved too fast. She knows that they’ll come up with a million reasons a girl like her doesn’t deserve him. She’s ready. She can take on the world as long as she gets to keep him.

     Lacing her fingers through his much larger free hand, she brings it to her lips and kisses, careful not to smudge her lipstick, “I’m going to be all right,” she assures him. How strange to have so much change at once — him thrust into fatherhood, and her into a spotlight. In the back of her mind, there are still twinges of fear and what-ifs that are by no means insignificant. But with his hand in hers, she thinks she can do anything — she can be brave. “I’m ready now, love.” I’m going to make you so proud.