He fucking cheated on us. We're polyamorous, you ask how might this be possible?
Our mutual partner is very ill. Bedridden. Trying desperately to scrape up the energy to go in a trip in two days with out daughter, who has been talking about said trip nonstop for literal months.
We are a masking family. When I walked into a restaurant without a mask by accident a few months ago, I ran out and immediately reported it to them so we could decide if I should mask around the house for a while after. We have to protect my partner's health. Their immune system is trashed. We work together and communicate to manage risks like this.
He took our daughter on a trip solo. Forgot her mask and "didn't have any others" (fuck you there are backup masks in your glove compartment for this exact situation) so let her go into a public building without one.
And even that would be some kind of fine, but he didn't tell us and let us make whatever adjustments we needed. We heard it from our kid later.
He's really apologetic but like. It's done. You did it.
And we can't leave him. It's financially dodgy (although my folks would help with that if things got bad, fyi to Partner On Tumblr, if you're reading this), but above all it's extremely logistically dicey. It would make illness vector logistics worse and make it extremely difficult to give our daughter the care and support she needs.
I want to be able to leave a partner when they break my trust. I'm so mad, and madder because I could walk if I really wanted to, but my partner could Not. And this whole thing is a really fucked up thing to do someone who is financially dependent on you.





